Does anyone else feel like this?

[justsomebloke25]

It's hard to describe it exactly but I feel sort of lazy compared to other people. Sometimes I sit at work and just stare at my computer for hours because I can't motivate myself to do any work. I'm so busy and I know I should be doing something but I just can't seem to concentrate. Luckily, no-one really notices so i get away with it, and I do lots of overtime to make up for it (it's not as if i've got anything better to do with my spare time seeing as I have no friends to hang out with )

And it's not just at work. I'm forcing myself to got to the office christmas party next week in an effort to get better...........but I have no decent clothes to wear cos I never go out......so I need to go shopping........but I just can't bring myself to make the effort of going out and doing it.

My brother will nip out here there and everywhere to go shopping or get a takeout.....but I think about the effort it will take and just decide it's not worth it.

Even posting on forums like this is an effort! :lol: I tend to lurk on these forums reading the posts, because writing something myself seems pointless.

I've been trying to work out why I feel like this. Maybe I'm just making excuses because I can't face people because of my SA, but I don't think it's that. The only other reason I can think of is that deep down I feel like whatever I do it won't make me happy, so what's the point - if that makes sense?

Just wanted to see if anyone else has experienced anything similar?

 

[blubs]

ye...I feel like that sometimes.
Sometimes when I feel like I've got no energy to do something I imagine how much energy I'd have if I was having to pack to go on a fantastic holiday...and I know I'd have loads of energy and be rushing about everywhere.
maybe you're not motivated because you don't enjoy the stuff your doing.

 

[justsomebloke25]

Well it's true that I don't like my job so of course it's difficult to motivate myself to do it. I'm an IT Manager, basically in charge of keeping the whole company running, so it's a lot of responsibility and very stressful sometimes. I've been thinking about trying a new career but I think that if only I had more fun and was happy in my social life it might make work easier to cope with (nobody LOVES their job, right?). I'm worried i'll start a new job, then eventually sort out my life and realise that I was better off working where I am now

 

[kiwi]

Yes pretty lazy as well!!!

At work (I'm a software developer) I'm extremely thorough and diligent when it comes to writing code, but in most other areas of my life, I'm a bit of a lazy slob.

While I don't mind ducking out for takeaways if the mood suits, I struggle to do anything social if it requires any effort. For example, at work sometimes there will be a morning tea or lunch in the lunch room, and I don't mind attending those because they're on site. However, anything that requires driving to a restaurant makes me not want to go.

We have an office Xmas party this weekend actually, and although it would make me anxious, I could force myself to go if I really wanted to. But the laziness kicks in and I just don't feel it's worth the effort!

The same applies to tackling my SA. It would require so much on-going effort to maintain a 'normal' life (that is, attending social events regularly) that I just can't bring myself to do anything at this point. Years ago I did seek treatment and for a while I was socializing regularly, but after 6 months or so I reverted back to my normal ways, and then the anxiety returns.

 

[Chilling__Echo]

yeah, you're probably mildly depressed. i'm in that stage now. i can't force myself to do anything!!

my grades in college have gone from a 3.8 GPA average (mostly As and Bs) to me litterally hoping i pass this year...

good luck darling. just try adn stay busy adn do what you have to do to get by. don't get fired! :wink:

 

[Invisible_Alien]

Yes I feel somewhat like that. I used to call it laziness, but now for me it's complete apathy and lethargy. I can go to work and get my job done fine. That's actually where I have the most energy. But once I get home all I have the energy or desire to do is watch TV. Sometimes I don't even have the energy to change the channel. I'm thinking I'm probably suffering from depression at the moment. I've battled it before but I've been free of it for a long time. This feeling of apathy has been with me for years now. I just drift along to different jobs with no plans for the future. My life has barely changed in years. Right now all I feel is emptiness inside.

 

[justsomebloke25]

Yes I feel somewhat like that. I used to call it laziness, but now for me it's complete apathy and lethargy.

Yeah, that's a better way of describing it really.......I couldn't think of the right words :lol:

My life has barely changed in years. Right now all I feel is emptiness inside

and that sums up exactly how I feel most of the time. At least i'm not the only one

 

[qipuqipu]

I can sympathise absolutely. I feel exactly this way right now. I can't figure out what to do to make me feel happy, because every option I have seems kinda... pointless. I was trying to do some important work today, but I made it drag on for hours and hours because I just couldn't get exited about it.

Can't think of anything else to say x_x

 

[Invisible_Alien]

and that sums up exactly how I feel most of the time. At least i'm not the only one

Unfortunately you're not. If only I knew what might make the feelings go away.

I can't figure out what to do to make me feel happy, because every option I have seems kinda... pointless.

Yes, life seems pointles at times...some times more than others.