Does Any One Know What Causes SA????
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HexNoir
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For the most part, yeah. I do know. Or at least I've been able to piece a lot of it together. SA starts with resistance against fear and just grows and grows. You begin to feel overwhelmed and overpowered because you feel you can't deal with normal things like confrontation, public speaking, and social interaction in your everyday life. But whatever is making you feel this way, confront it. Weather it's internal conflict or conflict with somebody else. Getting through the burn, and hardening yourself to fearful experiences could be your one way ticket away from it all. Just get a backbone, and break through it. It's much brighter on the other side. Oh yeah, and take care of yourself. You only have one shot, make it a damn good one
Jazzy said:
If you think about it everyone worries what other people think of them to some extent. I think it's just that but alot bigger. If everyone gets a bit of this complex during childhood, ours just somehow got bigger, maybe because of a particular event, bullying, parents, whatever. We feel sooo embarassed/like a failure when we get judged badly by someone, that it's painful, so our mind reacts by creating fear and imagining worst case scenarios over and over to avoid it because it thinks avoiding it is the best solution. So we end up avoiding situations even though those worst case scenarios rarely play out. Even though it would be a better plan of action to try to change how we feel when someone judges us badly and learn to not care so much, rather than avoiding social situations altogether throughout our lives. But our minds don't think of these options naturally. Our mind's solution is to avoid avoid avoid. It doesn't consider anything else. And we trust it because we are scared and know nothing else.
Other people probably have a different takes on sa though this is just how i'm seeing it
Johno
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Well I don't know. However according to the so called experts you have a genetic predisposition to this type of behaviour. Furthermore environmental influence, that makes you who you are is a big factor. Several studies exist that will show you that SA is a result of genetics and environment. Appropriate medication combined with CBT is your best hope. Trial and error. You need the ladder to get to the roof. One step at a time. Good luck