Do you find it easier if....

[nev_vern]

....somebody makes an effort to talk to you?

Example:

When i first started work, it took me around 6 months to talk to anybody their, if someone talked to me i would give simple one word replies. My farther also works in the same place as me, and he was like "talk to people, have a laugh and get to know everyone", and i was like thinking to myself "yeah, well ummm, you know what, i would love to, but hey, their is something wrong with my mind!". But one day, this new girl started working, and everytime she came up to talk to me, usually when we were having a 5 mins smoke break. At first i could not think of anything to say, and give her my simple one word replies, but she kept talking, for no reason. Why was she talking to me? i have no idea, she does not like me or anything, she has a boyfriend. But, i started feeling comfortable around her within a week, and i heard myself talking more with her, actually having conversations. Now, after she has been working for months where i work, she just comes up to me and gives me a hug every now and then, especially if we have not seen each other for a few days, she says she missed me. Which i think is nice, no girl ever hugs me apart from her, not even my mom. I am also trying to work out, why does she hug me? I have not asked, and neither will ever ask, and she does not know about my problems.

Do you people get comfortable around people if they put out a real effort to talk to you, wether you talk to them back or not? wether your strangers or not? (like we were)

 

[LittleMissScareAll]

Definitely...I can talk(a little) if I'm spoken to first, but I can't be the first one to talk to somebody.

 

[Skog]

Do you find it easier if....somebody makes an effort to talk to you?

Of course. Someone else initiating the conversation is at least some sign of acceptance (not rejection).

Some people are naturally conversational and prone to touching or hugging others. Whether she would be interested in you as a boyfriend or not, it is definitely behavior intended to encourage you to have some kind of relationship. Personally, I find it easier to talk to someone of the opposite sex (females) about what's bothering me, and I wish those opportunities arose more frequently.

Even if you can't initiate the hugs, try smiling and saying pleasant things in response so your friend knows you appreciate the attention. Tell her you miss her, too. Good luck.