Do you ever blame your parents?

[june]

I've been studying in my psychology classes that parents are the ones that model social behavior for their children, and that's how they learn. I think that that's why I am so bad,I was the ignored member of my 10 person family. No one wanted to listen to me, and now I can't speak to anyone cause I think that they just don't care, and don't want to hear what I have to say.

I grew up on a farm, so I've had a ton of responsibility since I could work at five. I was never carefree as a child, so it was hard to play with the kids who acted stupid, so I was by myself.
My mom was always depressed, and had a drug problem. As the 7th child I was left alone to take care of myself, and figure things out. My mom never had a mother-daughter talk, so I never learned about how to deal with boys, make-up, clothes etc. In elementary school my mom let a personal issue go for at least a year, I was so embarrassed and cried every night, I wasn't the most fashionable in high school, and didn't wear make-up so I had no friends.
Right now I'm a little bitter. I moved when I was 14, and left all of my friends behind. My parents offered no support, even though I was sick every morning and didn't eat.
I'm about to move back home for the summer, and it makes me a little sick. I hate their guilt trips, and the questions as to why I'm not married with five kids. Like it's any of their business, they haven't even been to see me at college, they paid my sister to drop me off.
I'm just tired of them tonight, I can't be too hard on them though, because at least they let me stay for free.

 

[Shonen_Yo]

I think it's time to abandon them. Emotional neglect can work both ways.

 

[COALPORTER]

Yea, my parents really sucked when it came to giving me
a good emotional foundation. My parnets gave me low self
esteem and made me think i was no good, instead of
building me up and teaching me that i am a worthy and good
person. My mom is a real witch and kept me at an arms length.
I think I have a hard time getting into relationships with
people because my mom was not vert close to me emotionally.
So, i probably think that if my mom treated me like crap,
then no one else in the world is going to treat me better than
my own mom....see how this goes??

 

[elProscrito]

i try not to blame my parent but i know they were a factor in my social anxiety. when i was a child i was very shy and i rarely left home. my parents always pointed out to my that i was so shy and weird. my mom once just pushed me outside the door of my house and locked it to make me play with other children. but i didn't. i guess that if my parents had recognized that i needed help and started acting than they could have helped me. instead they made things worse. i can't say that they were abusive. maybe just shouted at me too much. i was just different than other kids and they didn't know what to do with me. if i were normal than they upbringing would have probably be ok.

 

[maggie]

I've been studying in my psychology classes that parents are the ones that model social behavior for their children, and that's how they learn. I think that that's why I am so bad,I was the ignored member of my 10 person family. No one wanted to listen to me, and now I can't speak to anyone cause I think that they just don't care, and don't want to hear what I have to say.

I grew up on a farm, so I've had a ton of responsibility since I could work at five. I was never carefree as a child, so it was hard to play with the kids who acted stupid, so I was by myself.
My mom was always depressed, and had a drug problem. As the 7th child I was left alone to take care of myself, and figure things out. My mom never had a mother-daughter talk, so I never learned about how to deal with boys, make-up, clothes etc. In elementary school my mom let a personal issue go for at least a year, I was so embarrassed and cried every night, I wasn't the most fashionable in high school, and didn't wear make-up so I had no friends.
Right now I'm a little bitter. I moved when I was 14, and left all of my friends behind. My parents offered no support, even though I was sick every morning and didn't eat.
I'm about to move back home for the summer, and it makes me a little sick. I hate their guilt trips, and the questions as to why I'm not married with five kids. Like it's any of their business, they haven't even been to see me at college, they paid my sister to drop me off.
I'm just tired of them tonight, I can't be too hard on them though, because at least they let me stay for free.

hi June, it makes me sad to read your post and how things were for you ..good for you for going to college and getting your education though, and kinda turning your situation around..that shows incredible strength In answer to your question, yes, i blame my parents for my anxiety, especially my mother. She was loud, abusive, bullying and..i guess she never really knew me or what i was going through. Even though they have no idea how i'm still suffering, and I resent them still, I try not to dwell on it too much, cause it makes me feel really bummed out and doesn't really get me anyplace. I guess just try to pull whatever positives you can out of your situation and run with it :wink: oh, and..good luck with school :!:

 

[Y]

Yeah, sometimes, i had an overprotective and dominant mum and quiet, shy dad.