Do other people bug you? A lot?

[thequietone]

I know I should say, I ALLOW other people to bug me. It's true. Since I've come home from this family vacation with my unbearable relatives, I've been analyzing myself over and over again. Why am I so effectible? Why do ignorant, needy, loudmouth, mocking, peevish people make me so angry? And why can't I deal with my anger? I never once confronted anyone. I just clammed up, silent, fuming, and went off to be alone, wanting to hurt someone, hurt myself, I don't know. :x

How do social phobics deal with negative people? How do you deal with anger, if you deal with it at all? How do you forgive yourself for almost hating people who have their own mental problems, who are irritating, and with whom you share blood?

 

[steve1]

i think part of sa is not having the confidence to speak up for ourselves.
Do you come away real angry and say to yourself next time that person aint gonna say them nasty insults again only to let it happen again.

We are good people who dont deserve this shit with people ruining our lives.
Were on this planet for a short time....lets start kicking arse
HOHO

 

[steve1]

OH yeh the people that pick on us sa sufferars are normally sad sick bitter twisted insecure tosses who dont deserve the time of day!!!!

 

[Jaded_Jester]

thequietone i know exactly what you mean. i also clam up and let my anger build. i never used to believe that saying about how eventually you will blow up at someone, but lately i have been having those days where you get so mad that you wanna punch someone in the face. sorry, just ranting a bit.

i would like to join a marial arts or kickboxing class to get some of my aggression out, but the first step is joining the class. it feels like a bridge i have to cross

i would love to give you some advice but it would make me a hypocrite, have you ever taken any marial arts/kickboxing?

 

[thequietone]

OH yeh the people that pick on us sa sufferars are normally sad sick bitter twisted insecure tosses who dont deserve the time of day!!!!

This is true.....it bugs my conscience to think on that. But I wonder if being twisted and insecure is an excuse? 'Coz, well I'm pretty messed up, but I try as hard as I can not to bother the people around me, why can't they do the same? Even so deep in my heart, I really do feel sorry for people like that. I don't understand their motives, but I see that they must really be hurting inside.
I still wish I could learn how to accept my anger as being an "okay" emotion instead of something to be ashamed of.

thequietone i know exactly what you mean. i also clam up and let my anger build. i never used to believe that saying about how eventually you will blow up at someone, but lately i have been having those days where you get so mad that you wanna punch someone in the face. sorry, just ranting a bit.

i would like to join a marial arts or kickboxing class to get some of my aggression out, but the first step is joining the class. it feels like a bridge i have to cross

i would love to give you some advice but it would make me a hypocrite, have you ever taken any marial arts/kickboxing?

It takes a lot to make me "blow up" at a mean person, but I do tend to explode with anger toward myself, which I do not in any way recommend to anyone! It only makes everything ten times worse.
Back to your question about martial arts, I was inately drawn to the sport, thought it sounded really cool, I still do. I took a self defense course and a two week introduction to Karate. It is really awesome, and Im sure it would do wonders for agression problems. I didn't go through and try to earn any belts though. I wish I did. But the problem is, you have to spar against another person and I'm probably just a wimp, but I couldn't bring myself to physically attack a stranger. The Sensi has to observe the moves you'v memorized in order to get the belt as well.........so I just took what knowledge I learned from the class and did not continue.
My advice, and you can take it or leave it, is to try out a beginners course. Bring someone you trust, that way there will be a familiar face in the class. I do assure you, that if you find martial arts interesting, you will enjoy learning the moves and the philosophy behind it. Besides, just getting physical exersise does wonders for you body and your mind.

 

[steve1]

Ive heard some kind of sport or excersise is good for the mind as it can give a real positive sense,but still wish i could attack back the people who attack me (in a verbal not physical way)

 

[thequietone]

Ive heard some kind of sport or excersise is good for the mind as it can give a real positive sense,but still wish i could attack back the people who attack me (in a verbal not physical way)

Ooh, successfully retaliating using clever words is my goal! I always think of a great come-back a few hours AFTER the confrontation... :roll: