psykid
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I've been questioning this for a while now. I've always thought that I'm just shy until the past year. I've looked up a lot of personality disorders, and I have all the symptoms of APD.
Before grade 6, I wasn't shy at all. I first noticed my shyness in grade 6, but back then I was still able to talk to pretty much "fake' and outgoing kind of personality. Though as time went on the problem became worse and worse. Before university I had a few very close friends, but with anyone else I'm even afraid to make eye contact. If anyone looks at me in the eyes I look away immediately, and it would seem so rude to the other person but I really can't help it.
It was last year that I really started to think that it's not normal. Last year I lived alone, and I started to lose the ability to talk to the people that I was once very close to. It got to the point where when anyone talked to me I get so nervous that I can't pronounce anything clearly, then I kind of just stop talking. The others are decent enough to still try and be nice to me but I can tell that even the most talkative person in the university feels so awkward when they try to talk to me. I'm just so afraid to say anything inappropriate that I get so nervous and kind of just end up not saying anything at all except for one word answers.
I do feel inferior to others and I'm extremely sensitive. In fact I'm sometimes a burden to my closest friends because I have such low self esteem and confidence. I notice little things and sometimes when a person is preoccupied and doesn't reply to me with the nicest tone I get rather shocked/hurt and keep on thinking if they don't like me. Though rationally I know they're just busy, but I can't help feeling that way.
So eventually I stopped going to all of my university lectures, except for mandatory classes because I really do feel that it's much easier if I just shut myself in my room and do everything on my own. I really really do want to make close friends, and people around are very kind to reach out to me, but every time I just look down and reply with the softest mumble. Of course other people can only do so much, and they can't keep on trying to reach out to me if I don't know how to by myself with them.
Recently I had a dentist appointment. The night before that I couldn't sleep well at all because I know that when I go to the dentist I'll have to talk to the receptionist and everything. When I go shopping/restaurants, if I have a person that I'm comfortable talking to I always tell that person to pay + talk to the cashier for me because I'm afraid to.
So, I just thought this degree of "shyness" is kind of abnormal and am wondering if it's APD or just extreme shyness. Oh, and just in case this is necessary info, when I was young I was one of those kids that did get bullied but all those popular kids always stand up for me and give those bullies a good swipe ^^() So I wasn't really a person who was bullied by everyone.
Anyway, if anyone can help me out here it'll be greatly appreciate it.
Before grade 6, I wasn't shy at all. I first noticed my shyness in grade 6, but back then I was still able to talk to pretty much "fake' and outgoing kind of personality. Though as time went on the problem became worse and worse. Before university I had a few very close friends, but with anyone else I'm even afraid to make eye contact. If anyone looks at me in the eyes I look away immediately, and it would seem so rude to the other person but I really can't help it.
It was last year that I really started to think that it's not normal. Last year I lived alone, and I started to lose the ability to talk to the people that I was once very close to. It got to the point where when anyone talked to me I get so nervous that I can't pronounce anything clearly, then I kind of just stop talking. The others are decent enough to still try and be nice to me but I can tell that even the most talkative person in the university feels so awkward when they try to talk to me. I'm just so afraid to say anything inappropriate that I get so nervous and kind of just end up not saying anything at all except for one word answers.
I do feel inferior to others and I'm extremely sensitive. In fact I'm sometimes a burden to my closest friends because I have such low self esteem and confidence. I notice little things and sometimes when a person is preoccupied and doesn't reply to me with the nicest tone I get rather shocked/hurt and keep on thinking if they don't like me. Though rationally I know they're just busy, but I can't help feeling that way.
So eventually I stopped going to all of my university lectures, except for mandatory classes because I really do feel that it's much easier if I just shut myself in my room and do everything on my own. I really really do want to make close friends, and people around are very kind to reach out to me, but every time I just look down and reply with the softest mumble. Of course other people can only do so much, and they can't keep on trying to reach out to me if I don't know how to by myself with them.
Recently I had a dentist appointment. The night before that I couldn't sleep well at all because I know that when I go to the dentist I'll have to talk to the receptionist and everything. When I go shopping/restaurants, if I have a person that I'm comfortable talking to I always tell that person to pay + talk to the cashier for me because I'm afraid to.
So, I just thought this degree of "shyness" is kind of abnormal and am wondering if it's APD or just extreme shyness. Oh, and just in case this is necessary info, when I was young I was one of those kids that did get bullied but all those popular kids always stand up for me and give those bullies a good swipe ^^() So I wasn't really a person who was bullied by everyone.
Anyway, if anyone can help me out here it'll be greatly appreciate it.