gsmax5
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[Edit: I know this is a long post, but please read it. This is (I think) a pretty unique story as to how I gradually developed Social Phobia. I have never told anyone this before, so I really poured my heart out with this post.
I have always been shy. Always. But the shyness I experienced when I was younger was far less severe than what I am experiencing today.
Up until the 6th grade, my shyness problem was actually improving. If you past self in the 4th grade, and my present self, you would not believe that we are the same person. I had 5 GOOD friends, and I was sort of a class clown. At one point, I even did a funny dance, and sang an inappropriate song along with it as part of a class presentation. My teacher hated me, but I was pretty popular with my classmates.
By 6th grade, I had lost my charm, and it seemed like everyone was annoyed by me. One day, a kid gave me a really hurtful commentary and called me a "rejected class clown". This really hurt me inside, what he said still bothers me today, and it makes me feel really low, like I am truly unloved.
Also, I got in trouble for a number of things involving socialization. Talking, intrusive and creepy pranks, talking during reading time, drawing inappropriate pictures, vandalism that I (at the time) thought was funny, etc.
Then one day, I had a brilliant idea! Everyone liked me soo much more when I was quiet (in the 3rd grade). People thought I was cute, and had such a loving attitude towards me. If I go back to being quiet, I won't be hated anymore! And teachers will see me as a good kid, and not some weird reject that they both hate, and feel sorry for.
So from roughly around 6th or 7th grade, I gradually decided to withhold myself from talking. As my teacher once taught me (after I said something offensive, I forgot what), I learned to always think before I say anything; what I say could be offensive, annoying, or just make people dislike me. However, "thinking before I say something" turned into "don't say anything, because whatever you say will just damage your reputation".
People may have liked me more after I stopped talking, but it wasn't a worthy bargain. I traded in my own beautiful personality, for acceptance (if even that) by my classmates. Oh God, this has been the worst trade, I have ever made in my entire life.
By the 9th grade, I was completely silent. I never talked. By 10th grade, I pretty much unlearned all of my conversational skills. No joke, I couldn't even (and still can't) carry on a conversation.
Fear of being humiliated is one thing, but actually losing the ability to converse is utterly terrible.
I hate myself. Thanks for reading.
I have always been shy. Always. But the shyness I experienced when I was younger was far less severe than what I am experiencing today.
Up until the 6th grade, my shyness problem was actually improving. If you past self in the 4th grade, and my present self, you would not believe that we are the same person. I had 5 GOOD friends, and I was sort of a class clown. At one point, I even did a funny dance, and sang an inappropriate song along with it as part of a class presentation. My teacher hated me, but I was pretty popular with my classmates.
By 6th grade, I had lost my charm, and it seemed like everyone was annoyed by me. One day, a kid gave me a really hurtful commentary and called me a "rejected class clown". This really hurt me inside, what he said still bothers me today, and it makes me feel really low, like I am truly unloved.
Also, I got in trouble for a number of things involving socialization. Talking, intrusive and creepy pranks, talking during reading time, drawing inappropriate pictures, vandalism that I (at the time) thought was funny, etc.
Then one day, I had a brilliant idea! Everyone liked me soo much more when I was quiet (in the 3rd grade). People thought I was cute, and had such a loving attitude towards me. If I go back to being quiet, I won't be hated anymore! And teachers will see me as a good kid, and not some weird reject that they both hate, and feel sorry for.
So from roughly around 6th or 7th grade, I gradually decided to withhold myself from talking. As my teacher once taught me (after I said something offensive, I forgot what), I learned to always think before I say anything; what I say could be offensive, annoying, or just make people dislike me. However, "thinking before I say something" turned into "don't say anything, because whatever you say will just damage your reputation".
People may have liked me more after I stopped talking, but it wasn't a worthy bargain. I traded in my own beautiful personality, for acceptance (if even that) by my classmates. Oh God, this has been the worst trade, I have ever made in my entire life.
By the 9th grade, I was completely silent. I never talked. By 10th grade, I pretty much unlearned all of my conversational skills. No joke, I couldn't even (and still can't) carry on a conversation.
Fear of being humiliated is one thing, but actually losing the ability to converse is utterly terrible.
I hate myself. Thanks for reading.
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