NatRad
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ive been told im a victim of domestic violence, with years of emotional abuse, and control over me.
my ex left me a few weeks ago, and ive got full custody of my daughter, i have no possessions as she took everything with her hording, also in serious financial problems because of it.
i have no idea what direction to head in with my life anymore, at night im plagued with nightmares from the relationship, i dont sleep, i havnt slept in years, and infact i hvnt even drempt in years, the only dreams ive ever had were premenitions. and yes, i saw this coming which is why i confronted her about the affair.
my heart hurts, and i dont know why i still love my ex, even though she was bad to me for so long, and then became very neglectful of our daughter. and then hurt me so much at the end. it still hurts so so much.
i dont know what to do, i dont know if i can be deprogramed, but i keep wondering did i ever love her, is it love, is it just one sided, or is it just the programming shes had over me for years, i did everything, everything in my life to support her, when things got bad, i didnt give up, i worked harder, worked so hard it burnt me out and almost killed me. now that ive been left on my own, their is nobody telling me what to do, and i find this really hard now. ivebeen told what to do every step of the way, and anything i did do, iw as told how poorly i did it.
i think im really really damaged by all this, and at night, it really plagues me, hurts me so much, the dreams are bizar, but i really was trapped in that relationship.
what can id o to deprogram my self, work sent me to a shrink, but i dono what that will acheive... right now i cant see past 2morow, i know ill have to get up and look after my daughter all day, and put the most convincing mask on i can muster, that things are alright. and i know a week after that, ill have to return to work, even though im on restricted duties due to my shoulder injury.
help, i really dont know what to do
my ex left me a few weeks ago, and ive got full custody of my daughter, i have no possessions as she took everything with her hording, also in serious financial problems because of it.
i have no idea what direction to head in with my life anymore, at night im plagued with nightmares from the relationship, i dont sleep, i havnt slept in years, and infact i hvnt even drempt in years, the only dreams ive ever had were premenitions. and yes, i saw this coming which is why i confronted her about the affair.
my heart hurts, and i dont know why i still love my ex, even though she was bad to me for so long, and then became very neglectful of our daughter. and then hurt me so much at the end. it still hurts so so much.
i dont know what to do, i dont know if i can be deprogramed, but i keep wondering did i ever love her, is it love, is it just one sided, or is it just the programming shes had over me for years, i did everything, everything in my life to support her, when things got bad, i didnt give up, i worked harder, worked so hard it burnt me out and almost killed me. now that ive been left on my own, their is nobody telling me what to do, and i find this really hard now. ivebeen told what to do every step of the way, and anything i did do, iw as told how poorly i did it.
i think im really really damaged by all this, and at night, it really plagues me, hurts me so much, the dreams are bizar, but i really was trapped in that relationship.
what can id o to deprogram my self, work sent me to a shrink, but i dono what that will acheive... right now i cant see past 2morow, i know ill have to get up and look after my daughter all day, and put the most convincing mask on i can muster, that things are alright. and i know a week after that, ill have to return to work, even though im on restricted duties due to my shoulder injury.
help, i really dont know what to do