Depression

[pinkputter]

this is pretty broad, a lot f people with social phobia also have depression. Even though we may not be the "typical" people who get depressed, with our condition its hard NOT to feel it.


I guess i was just curious to see how many people are past the big obstacle that social phobia is. Just last year i COULDNT call people i didnt know, couldnt order in public, and really struggled just to function. Which wasnt like me, I have usually been social. So this scared me, but with some effort and a big change of attitude, I am past getting the physical symptoms. I used to feel so on edge and almost like I had litle panic attacks when i went to every class. Now thankfully im past that.

I am not saying this just to prove a point, And if youre still there, with your symptoms and all dont feel discouraged. I was there, and ive made progress and you can too. you have to believe its possible to feel good again.

This is really for the people, like me that are feeling stuck. Maybe youve made progress in the past, and for whatever reason you feel like youve been in the same place. For me this just depresses me even more, because ive worked so hard at overcomming this that i just feel like i should be past this.

I am realizing there's no "cure" for SA, its more of a progress. It's not like curing an illness, it's not just fixed. A better medical analogy would be like diabetes, you have to work at it over time, and you can never just mae it go away, its part of you, but you can make it as painless as possible. (Although i do this with SA overtime you can be EVEN better than you were before).

Anyway, just wondering how you guys are with your progress, and basically if youve ever felt "stuck" even after making some progress before.

 

[Lenic]

My SA used to really get me depressed, and sometimes still does.

I have felt stuck for a while now, although, now I have started uni I feel like I am challenging myself more, so sometimes I feel like I have moved on a bit, or slightly improved.
I know I am a long way from controlling my Sp, anxiety and panic attacks but I have 4 more years at uni so if I keep on challenging myself then hopefully by the end of the course I will have improved.

I like your analogy of comparing SA to diabetes, I guess it is like this, and the sooner that people realise this the better I think it will be for them, because there is no miracle drug, people have to work on it.

Sometimes I think this 'condition' teaches us how to get over life's little struggles in a better way than people who haven’t got it. I know it’s harder for us, but its more of a challenge and therefore more of a reward when we overcome the problem.

I’m probably not making any sense but these are my feelings.

 

[styrka]

yes, I'm stuck. I'm totally stuck.
I have made HUGE progress since I was in high school. Back then I was so bloody shy and quiet that its hard to believe. Then I was in uni and I survived, actually I did pretty good I think. I'm definetely more outgoing, I try to speak my mind, I can go to some parties and social events, etc...
but now in the adult world, I feel so stuck. I have huge issues to deal with still, I'm pissed scared to go to work and I don't have any real friends.
everyone in this website talks about how difficult high school and uni is, and how hard it is to make friends...... wait until you get to the 'adult world', you'll see that it gets worse. it seems to me that the older you are, the harder it is to make friends.....
I think I have overcome depression. I do get sad some days but I don't get horribly depressed like I used to. the type of depression where you feel you're in a black dark hole, and there's no hope and no point in getting up in the morning. fortunately I haven't felt that in some years. I would be heartbroken if I felt that way again. I fight hard every day to not fall down the cliff....

 

[someoneelse]

I think SA is an ongoing battle that I have to face the rest of my life. I feel better now then I have ever felt I would. Though with new experiences I am filled with anxiety but I get by better and rebound better from fears then I did when I was younger. SA is not going away but I think I can have a damn good life in spite of it and I think I am gradually creating a better life. I have had some real big breakthroughs in the past and felt this is it I have got to a place that I feel really happy. Then I realize there is more to things to face. If I succeeded before then I will succeed again.