compliments??

[-cae]

I've never actually gotten how you're meant to react to compliments? I find it really embarrassing when someone compliments me, on anything, and often I pretend I don't hear them to get out of it. When they try to make it blatantly obvious they're talking to me, it's just even worse. :?

By the latter comment, I mean like what happened to me yesterday. I was drawing and then she was like "heh, cool" and I was like, um, carrying on, and then she just kept leaning closer and closer and then went "heh, cool" again and I just kept ignoring her.

I feel sort of stupid now, but I really don't get what you're meant to say? Just "thanks" never seems to fit when I say it, so if it happens on MSN or something, I try to compliment back. Half the time people compliment to get something back themselves, so. But I'm not particuarly good at complimenting in real life, either.

..please tell me I'm not the only failure complimenting wise.

 

[someoneelse]

I do not think you are a failure. I have experienced this problem as well. Someone compliments me and I blush a little and do not respond. Then at some point in the past I just started to say thank you. I did it as if I would respond to someone saying hello. I became more use to it and after awhile I started to really appreciate the compliment. When I hear someone compliment now I feel good and to acknowledge the person's compliment makes the person feel good as well. Now I give more compliments. So I think you write very well which is a compliment and I feel good saying it and if you say thank you it makes me feel even better. That is that you appreciate my point of view which is a nice thing to say.

 

[Jack-B]

There's this girl at work, i compliment her, i know she's really shy, she ignores me, avoids eye contact, but i tell her she doesn't have to respond.

What i see in her is great strength, someone who really has a very warm heart but is terrified to open up to the world and let go, this is indicated to me in various ways.

Many people think its really rude not to respond but if you are really shy its usually embarassing and the first thing you want to do is ignore it because it means letting someone into your world, opening up.

'someone likes me or sees good in me'

How should you react? Smile and be polite if possible, people may genuinely want to know you, risk a conversation.

Jack

 

[Some_guy]

Just say thanks or if you're uncomfortable taking the compliment just ask something like "Are you into arts as well?". But hey, I know what it's like. It's easier said than done.

 

[Layla]

i think people compliment me because they feel so awkward around me that they can't think of anything else to say. you know, cause my awkwardness makes them feel weird. so they just say "i like your dress!" or your hair, or someting like that.

 

[missquiet]

i have trouble saying certain phrases in real life. like "you're welcome" "pardon me?" or "bless you" when someone sneezes..or "excuse me" when i have to get by (i just try to squish through or stand there and wait lol) ..i've gotten used to saying "thanks" though. but if someone compliments me i usually just do a little giggle like a weirdo ..which translated means thanks lol.

 

[false]

I too struggle with normal "phrases" like bless you etc. It makes me feel like everytime someone does something that requires one of those responses that they are testing me. And of course I fail the test each time. I try to tell myself I don't care but honestly I do.

Wasn't much help I know but you are not alone.