LittleMissMuffet
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I saw Pearl Jam last nite -just awesome. And I'm thinking about trying to go a second time!
I went alone, on account of that I have few friends and none of them like Rock music. But, one thing I told my self to remember to do was to buy a t-shirt from the official merchandise.
When I approached the counter where the concert merchandise was being sold, I noticed the people around it and immediately began to get nervous and self-concious. -This is one situation that I fear: buying something from a stranger especially when people could be watching me.
I must have had such a nervous look on my face, all my intense emotions showing-up, that this young man was looking at me. -I doubt that it was a positive kind of look. But, basically my thoughts were that 'I'm nervous and it shows up all over my face'.
I might not have as much social anxiety if it weren't that every fleeting emotion is laid bare for all to see on my face. ...and, this was like exactly what I was afraid of: of my nervousness showing-up. So I said to my self: "That's it, I'm giving up" and gave-up buying my t-shirt.
Then I just went and sat down away from everybody, kind of feeling deflated and frustrated. ...I was full of nervous anticipation and it just overwhelmed me. People would say: "no worries" to me, because I looked so stressed and worried. And I just gave-up, since this feeling was so strong and despite all my effort to change it is still there -overwhelming me and effectively handicapping me.
I just looked out the window out onto the street where there weren't crowds or people so close by.
Then I told my self that I really wanted to buy this t-shirt and that 'why should I let people and even my anxiety stop me from doing something that I want'. So I just walked up to the counter and bought my t-shirt. ...Then I noticed what I sometimes notice about my behaviour -that as soon as I don't care about stuffing-up, getting nervous and how people will respond to me, that I'm really personable and easy to interact with.
And it is strange how I swing from tension and fear to this very casual, laid-back and friendly manner.
(I told this to my therapist when I saw her today and she said that this was 'very brave' of me. ...Yet, I found this comment a bit patronizing. Maybe I am wrong to find it so. But I find that, just like I have trouble with people and have no trouble with people -that I swing and the lable of 'social phobia' and maybe even 'social anxiety' can be a little limiting in terms of describing me. But I find that few people can really relate to what I/we go through and say things like "that was really brave" and "i'm so proud of you" in a way that makes-out that you are completely inadequate. ...I know that such people mean well; it is just that I notice that they struggle to come to terms with just what feelings a person has and just where they fit in in terms of the overall spectrum of having a condition. )
Anyhow, I don't have that much to say. But this was just a story that I wanted to tell.
I went alone, on account of that I have few friends and none of them like Rock music. But, one thing I told my self to remember to do was to buy a t-shirt from the official merchandise.
When I approached the counter where the concert merchandise was being sold, I noticed the people around it and immediately began to get nervous and self-concious. -This is one situation that I fear: buying something from a stranger especially when people could be watching me.
I must have had such a nervous look on my face, all my intense emotions showing-up, that this young man was looking at me. -I doubt that it was a positive kind of look. But, basically my thoughts were that 'I'm nervous and it shows up all over my face'.
I might not have as much social anxiety if it weren't that every fleeting emotion is laid bare for all to see on my face. ...and, this was like exactly what I was afraid of: of my nervousness showing-up. So I said to my self: "That's it, I'm giving up" and gave-up buying my t-shirt.
Then I just went and sat down away from everybody, kind of feeling deflated and frustrated. ...I was full of nervous anticipation and it just overwhelmed me. People would say: "no worries" to me, because I looked so stressed and worried. And I just gave-up, since this feeling was so strong and despite all my effort to change it is still there -overwhelming me and effectively handicapping me.
I just looked out the window out onto the street where there weren't crowds or people so close by.
Then I told my self that I really wanted to buy this t-shirt and that 'why should I let people and even my anxiety stop me from doing something that I want'. So I just walked up to the counter and bought my t-shirt. ...Then I noticed what I sometimes notice about my behaviour -that as soon as I don't care about stuffing-up, getting nervous and how people will respond to me, that I'm really personable and easy to interact with.
And it is strange how I swing from tension and fear to this very casual, laid-back and friendly manner.
(I told this to my therapist when I saw her today and she said that this was 'very brave' of me. ...Yet, I found this comment a bit patronizing. Maybe I am wrong to find it so. But I find that, just like I have trouble with people and have no trouble with people -that I swing and the lable of 'social phobia' and maybe even 'social anxiety' can be a little limiting in terms of describing me. But I find that few people can really relate to what I/we go through and say things like "that was really brave" and "i'm so proud of you" in a way that makes-out that you are completely inadequate. ...I know that such people mean well; it is just that I notice that they struggle to come to terms with just what feelings a person has and just where they fit in in terms of the overall spectrum of having a condition. )
Anyhow, I don't have that much to say. But this was just a story that I wanted to tell.