Best Social Moment

[flake__]

For times when the fear has not been there/just disappeared, or when despite the fear you've actually really enjoyed a social moment/got meaning from it.

Post them here....

I will start. My best social moment...when i was 14, i had just struggled to get myself out of a bad situation, and inadvertently landed myself in an even worse situation which i was bound to for the next 2 years....i had pretty much lost all hope and drive. It was tough day-to-day. I had to go round this house and spend the evening with 2 older guys i didn't know...i was absolutely dreading it! And this guy approached who looked like a right thug, shaved head, hooped earring, and i thought, here's the antagoniser for the evening...

But he turned out to be, i am not kidding, the nicest guy in the world...i just found him so easy to talk to, the bulk of the fear just left as he was disarmingly nice, even though he was older we just kind of connected somehow, i used to go round his house most weekends, and because he seemed so genuine and caring and happy, it suddenly gave me my drive and determination back...i don't know how i would have got through the next 2 years if i hadn't met him. I remember once he even text saying i was one of the most easiest persons to talk to that he had ever met :lol: !!

Yes i am a girl and yes i liked him...but nothing ever actually came of it, because my sociophobia couldn't extend that far...in the end we kind of drifted apart, me sort of pulling away because i felt bad leading him on/stupid that i couldn't go further.

Never met anyone quite like him since.

 

[blackcap]

Nice story. It's a shame you didn't keep in touch - connections with another person like that don't come along very often.

I can't think of any particular social moment that stands out. There have been a couple of times where I've been out with a group of colleagues and had a really good time, but those are few and far between. For that to happen, everything has to be just right; the people I'm with, the topic(s) of conversation, the activity, and of course my mood.

 

[Frankenberry]

getting laid by acting lol i pretended i could function well! haha jks


umm i won an award once and had to maked a speech ..... did that with out feelign nervous.

 

[rado31]

hello flake__ ,

while i was a student i had some really enjoying moments while hangin around the city with friends-acquitances (khm)

ps

it is strange that i had given a same name - "sociophobia" to this condition as you, when people assked me what is wrong with me in the past.

professional staff several years later only gave me that same "diagnosis" and nothing useful of advice to cope with it except "so what?" sentence.

 

[flake__]

Nice story. It's a shame you didn't keep in touch - connections with another person like that don't come along very often.

I can't think of any particular social moment that stands out. There have been a couple of times where I've been out with a group of colleagues and had a really good time, but those are few and far between. For that to happen, everything has to be just right; the people I'm with, the topic(s) of conversation, the activity, and of course my mood.

Yeh shame i know..

Know exactly what you mean about 'everything has to be just right'...it is frustrating, but it proves that we are not anti-social...we value social moments when we are lucky enough to feel comfortable in them.