CyclingSoPhob
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After 37 years of living without any female friends there is now at least the possibility there could be one. My sister kept telling me she's going to try to set me up with a shy lady she works with. Well a couple of weeks ago she actually brought this lady to my house under other circumstances, so as not to put myself or her coworker under any pressure. My sister basically pretended she wanted to stop by and get my input on some things while her coworker was conveniently with her. Her coworker was actually in on it the whole time as was I but noone got too nervous during that time.
The main problem I'm having now is that I'm not sure if she's truly interested in me or not. My sister and another coworker of hers maintains that the lady is interested but just very nervous about the whole dating concept. According to my sister this lady has never dated before and I haven't had a real date either. I called her once a few days after I initially met her and felt very nervous and was positive I left a bad impression. I called her a couple of times after that and her mother said she was busy. This lady also initially didn't respond to the emails I sent to her but she has started to reply to the ones I've sent recently. To me it seems she's replying to the emails so I wouldn't bother her on the phone. Last weekend I also emailed her to see if she wanted to go hiking at a state forest and she replied she didn't feel she knew me well enough to go hiking. That was definitely a bummer as most any of the other conventional types of dates would probably be too nerve racking for me to be myself. She did reply in the email that she might be up for meeting at a restaurant for something to eat. That seemed like she may just be feeling guilty for turning me down for hiking so she said something to keep me from feeling bad. I really hate bothering people so if she's not interested I certainly wouldn't want to waste anyone's time trying to pursue something that'll never work. I am heavily into bicycling and that requires a lot of time and money commitments. But it would be nice to have someone for at least an activity partner. I did find her attractive but I'm just not receiving any signals that says she is interested, even though other people says her shyness is holding her back. It would be so much easier if I could meet someone that could at least give hints whether she's interested or not. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
The main problem I'm having now is that I'm not sure if she's truly interested in me or not. My sister and another coworker of hers maintains that the lady is interested but just very nervous about the whole dating concept. According to my sister this lady has never dated before and I haven't had a real date either. I called her once a few days after I initially met her and felt very nervous and was positive I left a bad impression. I called her a couple of times after that and her mother said she was busy. This lady also initially didn't respond to the emails I sent to her but she has started to reply to the ones I've sent recently. To me it seems she's replying to the emails so I wouldn't bother her on the phone. Last weekend I also emailed her to see if she wanted to go hiking at a state forest and she replied she didn't feel she knew me well enough to go hiking. That was definitely a bummer as most any of the other conventional types of dates would probably be too nerve racking for me to be myself. She did reply in the email that she might be up for meeting at a restaurant for something to eat. That seemed like she may just be feeling guilty for turning me down for hiking so she said something to keep me from feeling bad. I really hate bothering people so if she's not interested I certainly wouldn't want to waste anyone's time trying to pursue something that'll never work. I am heavily into bicycling and that requires a lot of time and money commitments. But it would be nice to have someone for at least an activity partner. I did find her attractive but I'm just not receiving any signals that says she is interested, even though other people says her shyness is holding her back. It would be so much easier if I could meet someone that could at least give hints whether she's interested or not. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?