Attention hogging sibling?

LittleMissMuffet

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Gees Emma

...maybe I shouldn't say this but: you haven't got it easy.
You're absolutely right when you say that your sister should not get treated better. Your mother obviously has her own deep insecurities and is taking this out on you instead of dealing with her own problems and respecting you.

...Yet even the fact that you're smart and independent enough to see that her treatment of you is wrong and emotionally damaging -you still are in the environment copping such attacks at your self-esteem. -Meaning that even a really independent minded person would have their self-esteem damaged if they had to endure being told that they are worthless compared to others who are 'perfect' or great on a daily basis.

I don't want to give you wrong advice or tell you what to do ...but if you are able and old enough, I would consider moving-out and away from someone who shows so little respect to you.

but because I don't know you well, I would say for you to ask someone like a councellor or someone else you trust who knows you and see what they think is a good idea. ...I just think that it would be really hard to grow and develop with someone who insists that you need to grow-up at the same time that they hinder every attempt you make to do so.

My cousin grew-up with her (and my) grandmother for a mother (since her mother died when she was small) and my grandmother, who had big emotional issues, would give my cousin's brother preferential treatment -along the lines of giving him the 'good food' and deliberately showing that my girl cousin was not deserving of getting the 'good food' etc... Basically she rubbed it in that she thought my male cousin was perfect, whilst my female cousin was worthless.
I feel sorry for anyone who had my grandmother as a parent or guardian.
 
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