hans1
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I'm really at my wit's end here. Don't know what to do anymore.
It's not so much social anxiety that I suffer from, but something else that is very very annoying.. is murder on my self-confidence and extremely demoralizing.
It's gonna sound stupid but it is something along the lines of.. me getting very awkward and uncomfortable when women show affection towards me.
Generally (not now, but when my confidence is decent) I don't even have problems walking up to women at say a bar and chatting them up. (because it generally goes well) But once it becomes more intimate, I freeze like a total turd and strike out. Every time. Even if I should manage to kiss them (hasn't happened in quite a while), on their initiative, I'll be awkward about the interaction anyway lateron.
Over the past two months, two noteable things that happened to show this point. First, this girl. I know she likes me. She has for years. I went by her place quite often, chatting with her nicely. Then one day, she came over. She was totally open and willing. We chatted til 4 in the morning in my room, sitting very close to each-other. All nice but.. I couldn't do anything. In no way could I really make a move or show romantic interest in her. The day after I went to see her but she was pissed (probably for me leading her on for the umpteenth time). I haven't seen her much since. I'm just to emberassed.
Another event. I was at a bar with some friends. At one point, I was just standing there, and a girl walks up to me with some pick-up line. Happens every now and then, I've gotten used to it to some degree. I ofcourse logically recognized it as such. I don't remember much of what was being said, but at one point I remember stroking her hair and saying she looked very pretty. Any chump could have picked her up at that point ofcourse. Not me. My reaction towards affection is always to back away. So I just kind of.. went to my friends. Leaving her probably thinking 'wtf?'
I'm getting really desperate here. I'm racking my brain trying to think of ways to get over this. But if girls repeatedly hand it to me on a platter and I still can't get over it.. what am I to do? I really want a girlfriend. I'm really depressed atm. At my wit's end.
Any help?...
*lonely soul*
It's not so much social anxiety that I suffer from, but something else that is very very annoying.. is murder on my self-confidence and extremely demoralizing.
It's gonna sound stupid but it is something along the lines of.. me getting very awkward and uncomfortable when women show affection towards me.
Generally (not now, but when my confidence is decent) I don't even have problems walking up to women at say a bar and chatting them up. (because it generally goes well) But once it becomes more intimate, I freeze like a total turd and strike out. Every time. Even if I should manage to kiss them (hasn't happened in quite a while), on their initiative, I'll be awkward about the interaction anyway lateron.
Over the past two months, two noteable things that happened to show this point. First, this girl. I know she likes me. She has for years. I went by her place quite often, chatting with her nicely. Then one day, she came over. She was totally open and willing. We chatted til 4 in the morning in my room, sitting very close to each-other. All nice but.. I couldn't do anything. In no way could I really make a move or show romantic interest in her. The day after I went to see her but she was pissed (probably for me leading her on for the umpteenth time). I haven't seen her much since. I'm just to emberassed.
Another event. I was at a bar with some friends. At one point, I was just standing there, and a girl walks up to me with some pick-up line. Happens every now and then, I've gotten used to it to some degree. I ofcourse logically recognized it as such. I don't remember much of what was being said, but at one point I remember stroking her hair and saying she looked very pretty. Any chump could have picked her up at that point ofcourse. Not me. My reaction towards affection is always to back away. So I just kind of.. went to my friends. Leaving her probably thinking 'wtf?'
I'm getting really desperate here. I'm racking my brain trying to think of ways to get over this. But if girls repeatedly hand it to me on a platter and I still can't get over it.. what am I to do? I really want a girlfriend. I'm really depressed atm. At my wit's end.
Any help?...
*lonely soul*
