jh3art
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There are two basic emotions for humans and knowing this might just solve your anxiety.
FEAR AND LOVE.
I have been implementing this strategy for a couple of weeks now, and I've never been further away from my social anxiety problems. There are times where I feel uncomfortable still, but I am able to recognize this as a fear that isn't necessary.
When I speak of LOVE I mean for everyone, not just yourself. If you recognize that everyone - ESPECIALLY those who claim to be your enemies - is a part of the universe, a part of you, you will have an easier time loving them. Love is the cure and anything that feels right is a result of this thing. realize that this universe is vibrating natural frequencies, and that even emotion emanates its own frequency vibration. The fear of a new situation, of looking bad in front of others, of losing a loved one, of not having control over the actions of a mate, are all satelite emotions of FEAR. Anytime you feel at arms with yourself, realize that you are fearing something that you shouldn't. I used to fear not having perfect control over things, but now I not only have lost that fear, but have realized through love for nature and its inhabitants that directly opposes it. So when I find myself fretting and fearing loss, I tell myself that I am afraid of something. I don't try to figure it out, although it might happen naturally. Instead, I focus on love - in loving everything as I love myself.
The result, in a way, is breaking free of the grasp of the ego, insecurities, and anxiety related feelings. For me, this includes losing sight of materialism, of consumeristic needs to fit in. These unnatural things confuse the emotions and bring about fear.
FEAR CONTROLS YOU:
They say that the greatest weapon a person can use against you is your own fear. Governments have been doing this to control huge populations for many ages.
A note of consequence, do not let things such as terrorist attacks and such enrage you. You can feel sympathy for those lost and even the need to protect yourself from future attacks. But the root of these actions should be love and love for others. Love is a force stronger than any other. I might make some confused, but I even have a deep love for Osama, but I do not have to like him.
An interpersonal example of this that we have all undoubtedly experienced is in a relationship. Near the eminent end, we feel like we can't let go. We fear losing our significant other and this fear makes the relationship worse and worse. If you truly loved this person you wouldn't feel the insecure urge to control her and keep her as yours (using "her" since I am a guy). We must not fear the end and must not attempt to take control over others because of our fear. Instead, through love, we understand that an end might come. It may be sad for us, but it is far better than a bad relationship held together by fear.
The same principle logic should go behind all of our relationships with others. All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
Some other ways to keep this mentality is to listen to music that supports this type of idea, to avoid watching TV - which targets negative, fearing emotions and inflames them, to practice love for everyone - friends and ESPECIALLY enemies, and to never be afraid of anything, knowing that "every little thing, is gonna be alright". Thank you bob marley and the beatles!
FEAR AND LOVE.
I have been implementing this strategy for a couple of weeks now, and I've never been further away from my social anxiety problems. There are times where I feel uncomfortable still, but I am able to recognize this as a fear that isn't necessary.
When I speak of LOVE I mean for everyone, not just yourself. If you recognize that everyone - ESPECIALLY those who claim to be your enemies - is a part of the universe, a part of you, you will have an easier time loving them. Love is the cure and anything that feels right is a result of this thing. realize that this universe is vibrating natural frequencies, and that even emotion emanates its own frequency vibration. The fear of a new situation, of looking bad in front of others, of losing a loved one, of not having control over the actions of a mate, are all satelite emotions of FEAR. Anytime you feel at arms with yourself, realize that you are fearing something that you shouldn't. I used to fear not having perfect control over things, but now I not only have lost that fear, but have realized through love for nature and its inhabitants that directly opposes it. So when I find myself fretting and fearing loss, I tell myself that I am afraid of something. I don't try to figure it out, although it might happen naturally. Instead, I focus on love - in loving everything as I love myself.
The result, in a way, is breaking free of the grasp of the ego, insecurities, and anxiety related feelings. For me, this includes losing sight of materialism, of consumeristic needs to fit in. These unnatural things confuse the emotions and bring about fear.
FEAR CONTROLS YOU:
They say that the greatest weapon a person can use against you is your own fear. Governments have been doing this to control huge populations for many ages.
A note of consequence, do not let things such as terrorist attacks and such enrage you. You can feel sympathy for those lost and even the need to protect yourself from future attacks. But the root of these actions should be love and love for others. Love is a force stronger than any other. I might make some confused, but I even have a deep love for Osama, but I do not have to like him.
An interpersonal example of this that we have all undoubtedly experienced is in a relationship. Near the eminent end, we feel like we can't let go. We fear losing our significant other and this fear makes the relationship worse and worse. If you truly loved this person you wouldn't feel the insecure urge to control her and keep her as yours (using "her" since I am a guy). We must not fear the end and must not attempt to take control over others because of our fear. Instead, through love, we understand that an end might come. It may be sad for us, but it is far better than a bad relationship held together by fear.
The same principle logic should go behind all of our relationships with others. All you need is love, love, love is all you need.
Some other ways to keep this mentality is to listen to music that supports this type of idea, to avoid watching TV - which targets negative, fearing emotions and inflames them, to practice love for everyone - friends and ESPECIALLY enemies, and to never be afraid of anything, knowing that "every little thing, is gonna be alright". Thank you bob marley and the beatles!
When my parents (fairly old already) dies I wont have anyone to love me. I doubt I will have much contact at all with my siblings after that. Also, my stupid brain tries to fool me somtimes (alot in later years) that I need some damn romantic love.