sara1975
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I have only been on this group for a short time but i have noticed that a lot of people seem to be either angry/depressed or excepting of there SA/phobias.
Which one are you?
And why?
I am excepting of my SA/social phobia/agoraphobia as i have always been this way so to me its normal.
I am not depressed about not being able to go out on my own or that i am full of anxiety when i am somewhere i don't want to be as i see it as just part of my personality.
I am not angry about my SA/social phobia/agoraphobia as the only person i could be angry with is me, i am the reason i cant go out, no one and nothing physically stops me from going out, only my mind stops me so i cant blame anyone else for it.
Yes i could sit here blaming my mum for not pushing me to go out and do things, blame my dad for being nervous around people he didn't know, blame my dad and brother for picking on my sister when we were younger saying she was thick so i then never tried to do things in case i couldn't do them and was called thick, blame my nan for spoiling me,blame my schools for not recognizing something was more seriously wrong than just shyness,blame a woman at a party who grabbed me to dance and made me drop some food on the floor so everyone looked at me and i felt embarrassed, blame the kids that grabbed me and a friend and who then hit my friend while holding me so i couldn't do anything,blame the loo door that got stuck in the train station when i was 8 which caused me to have my first panic attack, blame every other thing i can think of that has caused anxiety over the years but i cant as a person can have the most terrible life ever but still be confident and happy in fact it makes some people stronger and more determined to make something of there life so i cant blame anyone else because when it comes down to it I AM the only person stopping my self from getting better and going out and I AM the only person that can do anything about it.
Which one are you?
And why?
I am excepting of my SA/social phobia/agoraphobia as i have always been this way so to me its normal.
I am not depressed about not being able to go out on my own or that i am full of anxiety when i am somewhere i don't want to be as i see it as just part of my personality.
I am not angry about my SA/social phobia/agoraphobia as the only person i could be angry with is me, i am the reason i cant go out, no one and nothing physically stops me from going out, only my mind stops me so i cant blame anyone else for it.
Yes i could sit here blaming my mum for not pushing me to go out and do things, blame my dad for being nervous around people he didn't know, blame my dad and brother for picking on my sister when we were younger saying she was thick so i then never tried to do things in case i couldn't do them and was called thick, blame my nan for spoiling me,blame my schools for not recognizing something was more seriously wrong than just shyness,blame a woman at a party who grabbed me to dance and made me drop some food on the floor so everyone looked at me and i felt embarrassed, blame the kids that grabbed me and a friend and who then hit my friend while holding me so i couldn't do anything,blame the loo door that got stuck in the train station when i was 8 which caused me to have my first panic attack, blame every other thing i can think of that has caused anxiety over the years but i cant as a person can have the most terrible life ever but still be confident and happy in fact it makes some people stronger and more determined to make something of there life so i cant blame anyone else because when it comes down to it I AM the only person stopping my self from getting better and going out and I AM the only person that can do anything about it.
