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[loopylou]

well, theres this boy i reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally like online, he's quite alot older than me, but i think he may like me too, but we are such good mates, we have such a great friendship and i dont wanna ruin it by telling him how i feel! its not just a crush, i think i may love him!

ahh what do you think i should do?

 

[shipost]

tell him! you wouldnt like it if there was somone who fancied you and not told you... i know i wouldnt like not knowing theres somone out there that could be for me but they never told me :wink:

 

[crazyfairyx]

It depends on factors such as, how old are you and how old is he? For example if you're under 16 and he is over 16, if you tell him you like him it could cause problems, because of societies views of it, and pressures put on him. If he admitted to liking you back, and your family found out, it could all blow up. You could both end up pretty hurt.

But if you're both over 16, why not tell him lol? My boyfriend is older than me (we were 16 and 19 when we got together) and I confessed to liking him (to his face, omg one of the most difficult things I have ever done, thankfully I'd had a few drinks which made it easier :lol: ) and I've never regretted it. Even if he says he doesn't like you back, he's your mate, neither of you should let it get in the way of your friendship. Yes you may feel a bit for a while, but if you're really close mates one day you'll look back and giggle about it, even if you don't think so now.

Good luck with your decision!!

 

[Meow]

Telll himmmmmmmmmmm!!! I was 18 and my guy was 33 when we met online, over 3 years down the road here we are happily married... and i'm stuck in a foreign country LOL.

Seriously tho, let him know how you feel. If he is a true friend but doesn't feel the same he won't be weirded out and you can remain good friends.

 

[loopylou]

yah but thats easy for you all to say!

here are the facts:

he is very sensitive, and so am i

he's depressed, and so am i

he has social phobia, and so do i

he's 7 years older than me, and im under 16

i cant stop thinking about him, i dream about him, when i wake up i think about him, when i go to sleep i think about him

if my parents found out they would have aright strop with me and kill my crush


and he keeps saying dead sweet things to me, saying you mean the world to me, i love you loads, i missed you so much its unbelieveable, i mean...do friens say that? only ive nveer really had a big friendship as deep as this!

also, we r both going through some rough times at the moment, do you think its best to wait ill im 16?

tanks peeps!

lucy xx

 

[crazyfairyx]

Being totally honest with you I'd wait til you were 16, telling him could open a whole mess of problems with not only you two, but your family if they found out, and cos you're under 16 it's not unrealistic to think that family members might find out cos your computer is in their house and so can probably be accessed by them. Also, if you find out that he doesn't like you back, you could end up feeling pretty bad about yourself, and him being so much older he could feel uncomfortable carrying on the friendship, as he may feel he is leading you on.

Maybe just be friends til you're 16, it's not forever, and if you worked out, and were friends for quite a while first it would make your relationship stronger in the long run. Also, because of your age telling him could make him panic and break contact with you, and may damage a good friendship.

I know it's probably not want you want to hear, but I think if you thought it was a good idea to tell him you wouldn't have asked us. x

 

[jayfan]

where are you from ? were im from its 18 . ive been thru this exact situation before .
i was the older person but nothing ever happened because im not going to jeopardize my well being and freedom over some girl- doesnt matter how much i like her. i told her , maybe when your older but by that time we mostly likely will have both found somebody.

 

[loopylou]

the thing is, im dead worried about him, and we havent been talking much lately, i dont know whats wrong! i know he doesent want a gf yet, well thats what he's said anyway, hey, i shoul've put a poll on here! :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

[Mandy-Chan]

well, not to break the bubble...

but when i was 14, i met my first boyfriend (which was 17) and he was online. We were obsessed with eachother. i would think about him when i woke up until i went to sleep, and even in dreams. I would think in class all day about the lives we would have, the kids we'd raise... i wouldn't call it puppy love. But we had little in common, except for the fact we liked anime (japanese animation)

So, it ends up he breaks up with me for another girl, then he said he lied about that because we were "to obsessed" then we got back together... it went off and on... for what seemed like eternity. I'm 16 now, and still the pain of that relationship lingers.

But, now i am dating a 24 year old that i had met online, but we have alot in common and do in fact love each other and spend all our time (we even sleep on the phone) together. We even met up (he lives in ga, while i live is wa.) to see if we did love each other. And turns out, we did. And i'm planning to move over there in a year and a half.

So, what i'm trying to say is be careful. There can be some real weird people on the internet. It may seem like you really love this person, but you have to look and see what you have in common, and if this relationship is worthwhile.

 

[Morgs]

How do you meet people online,
was it on this site?

 

[Mandy-Chan]

For me, i met them on yahoo chat before they had the 18+ on all the chat rooms. Now i have no idea....Myspace perhaps? :lol: