Act with Love

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A new book is coming out next month called: Act With Love: Stop Struggling, Reconcile Differences, and Strengthen Your Relationship With Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Dr Russ Harris. Here's some more info from Amazon.com:

Editorial Reviews

Product Description

Popular myths about love set us up for a struggle with real life. The inconvenient truth is there's no such thing as a perfect partner, all couples fight, and feelings of love come and go like the weather. But that doesn't mean you can't have a joyful and romantic relationship. Through a simple program based on the revolutionary new mindfulness-based acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), you can learn to handle painful thoughts and feelings more effectively and engage fully in the process of living and loving together.

With your partner or alone, ACT with Love will teach you how to:

* Let go of conflict, open up, and live fully in the present
* Use mindfulness to increase intimacy, connection, and understanding
* Resolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differences
* Act on your values to build a rich and meaningful relationship

From the Publisher

In ACT with Love, therapist and medical doctor Russ Harris shows couples how developing psychological flexibility--the ability to be in the present moment with openness, awareness, and focus, and to take effective action in line with one's values--can help them build more compassionate, accepting, loving relationships.

Excerpts are also available on Amazon.com
 

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This next book is for professionals, hence the price.

Mindfulness for Two: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Approach to Mindfulness in Psychotherapy (Hardcover)
by Kelly G. Wilson (Author)

Amazon.com: Mindfulness for Two: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Approach to Mindfulness in Psychotherapy: Kelly G. Wilson: Books

Editorial Reviews
Product Description
You can spend years in graduate school, internship, and clinical practice. You can learn to skillfully conceptualize cases and structure interventions for your clients. You can have every skill and advantage as a therapist, but if you want to make the most of every session, both you and your client need to show up in the therapy room. Really show up. And this kind of mindful presence can be a lot harder than it sounds.

Mindfulness for Two is a practical and theoretical guide to the role mindfulness plays in psychotherapy, specifically acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). In the book, author Kelly Wilson carefully defines mindfulness from an ACT perspective and explores its relationship to the six ACT processes and to the therapeutic relationship itself. With unprecedented clarity, he explains the principles that anchor the ACT model to basic behavioral science. The latter half of the book is a practical guide to observing and fostering mindfulness in your clients and in yourself--good advice you can put to use in your practice right away. Wilson, coauthor of the seminal Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, guides you through this sometimes-challenging material with the clarity, humor, and warmth for which he is known around the world. More than any other resource available, Mindfulness for Two gets at the heart of Wilson's unique brand of experiential ACT training.

The book includes a DVD-ROM with more than six hours of sample therapy sessions with a variety of therapists on QuickTime video, DRM-free audio tracks of Wilson leading guided mindfulness exercises, and more.

"Kelly Wilson does a masterful job of framing the many different ways in which a therapist grounded in mindfulness might skillfully nurture greater awareness and self-knowing in his or her clients. His approach is a very creative use of mindfulness within the dyadic relationship, both verbal and non-verbal. Of course, it is impossible to engage authentically without continually listening deeply to and learning from the myriad "dyadic relationships" we have within ourselves, as he so aptly and honestly recounts. This book makes a seminal contribution to the growing literature on ACT and its interface with mindfulness theory and practice."
--Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Full Catastrophe Living and Letting Everything Become Your Teacher and coauthor of The Mindful Way Through Depression

"This is a book of enormous breadth and depth, a book full of wisdom from an internationally acclaimed clinician and researcher. Wilson builds bridges between therapy traditions in a wonderful way. For those who already teach mindfulness as part of their therapy, this is a must-read. For those who have yet to do so, this book is the best invitation possible."
--Mark Williams, professor of clinical psychology at the University of Oxford and coauthor of The Mindful Way Through Depression

"There is a tremendous change occurring in our collective thinking regarding empirically supported interventions. Mindfulness for Two portends the direction of this change, toward the idea that the scientist, therapist, and client are motivated and affected by the same set of principles. Wilson and DuFrene are insightful, emotionally honest, and pragmatic. This is a refreshing and timely contribution to the therapy process."
--Thomas J. Dishion, Ph.D., director of the Child and Family Center and professor of psychology and school psychology at the University of Oregon

"As a clinical psychologist who applies mindfulness therapy to clients with addictive behavior problems, I highly recommend Wilson's Mindfulness for Two. As stated in the preface, `if you're offended by my speaking directly to you, or if you're unwilling to sit with hard issues, both your own and your clients', this book isn't for you.' But if you want to know how to be more mindful in therapy practice and learn how to help your clients be more aware in the present moment, this book is definitely for you."
--G. Alan Marlatt, Ph.D., professor of psychology and director of the Addictive Behaviors Research Center at the University of Washington

"Wilson and DuFrene have provided therapists with the clearest understanding of ACT and mindfulness that I have encountered. They explain the basic theory of emotions and human learning in simple, clear, and understandable prose. Also, I found this book rich in philosophical insights concerning the human condition. Their models of assessment and intervention flow from this basic knowledge and philosophy. This work will help all therapists see a new way to understand and assess their clients' suffering and potential for improving their lives. They will also learn to construct treatment plans to make such a transition."
--Raymond DiGiuseppe, Ph.D., ABPP, professor and chair of the department of psychology at St. John's University

"This book provides the clearest description I've seen of how understanding both mindfulness and behavior analysis contributes to effective therapy. It also provides unique, creative, and powerful exercises to help therapists cultivate mindful awareness of their interactions with their clients to create life-changing conversations."
--Ruth A. Baer, professor of psychology at the University of Kentucky

"In this book, Wilson, an internationally respected therapist, provides an outstanding and innovative overview of new trends in behavior therapy and mindfulness. He shares his insights into the complexities of what happens when we try to use our own minds to heal the minds of others. Beautifully written, clear, and bristling with wisdom from a very experienced therapist, this gem of a book will be a pleasure to read and a source for much reflection and learning."
--Paul Gilbert, author of Overcoming Depression and The Compassionate Mind

"This is an extraordinary book. Wilson speaks to the reader directly and honestly. He uses not only state-of-the-art scientific research but also his own most intimate personal experiences, his considerable clinical wisdom, and even great poetry to explain some of the most technical concepts in modern behavior analysis. Mindfulness for Two is a must-read for both novice clinicians seeking an introductory treatment of modern behavior analytic psychotherapy and for seasoned clinicians who wish to deepen their understanding and skills."
--James D. Herbert, Ph.D., professor of psychology and associate dean of the College of Arts and Sciences at Drexel University

From the Publisher
In Mindfulness for Two, acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) cofounder Kelly Wilson shows clinicians how to connect with the present moment in therapy and provides exercises they can use to teach their clients this critical skill. The DVD-ROM packaged with this book features exclusive footage of Wilson demonstrating these techniques in therapy sessions.
 

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Here's the website with the introduction and the first chapter available for free.

| ACT with love

www.act-with-love.com said:
PSYCHOLOGICAL FLEXIBILITY & THE SIX CORE PROCESSES OF ACT

There are six core processes in ACT:

1. Connection means being in the present moment: connecting fully with whatever is happening right here, right now. (Technically in ACT, this is called "contacting the present moment".)

2. Defusion means learning to step back or detach from unhelpful thoughts and worries and memories: instead of getting caught up in your thoughts, or pushed around by them, or struggling to get rid of them, you learn how to let them come and go – as if they were just cars driving past outside your house. You learn how to step back and watch your thinking, so you can respond effectively - instead of getting tangled up or lost inside your thinking.

3. Expansion means opening up and making room for painful feelings and sensations. You learn how to drop the struggle with them, give them some breathing space, and let them be there without getting all caught up in them, or overwhelmed by them; the more you can open up, and give them room to move, the easier it is for your feelings to come and go without draining you or holding you back. (Technically in ACT this is called "acceptance".)

4. The Observing Self is the part of you that is responsible for awareness and attention. We don’t have a word for it in common everyday language – we normally just talk about the ‘mind’. But there are two parts to the mind: the thinking self – i.e. the part that is always thinking; the part that is responsible for all your thoughts, beliefs, memories, judgments, fantasies etc. And then there’s the observing self – the part of your mind that is able to be aware of whatever you are thinking or feeling or doing at any moment. Without it, you couldn’t develop those mindfulness skills. And the more you practice those mindfulness skills, the more you’ll become aware of this part of your mind, and able to access it when you need it.

5. Values are what you want your life to be about, deep in your heart. What you want to stand for. What you want to do with your time on this planet. What ultimately matters to you in the big picture. What you would like to be remembered for by the people you love.

6. Committed action means taking action guided by your values – doing what matters – even if it’s difficult or uncomfortable

When you put all these things together, you develop something called psychological flexibility. This is the ability to be in the present moment, with awareness and openness, and take action, guided by your values. In other words, it’s the ability to be present, open up, and do what matters. The greater your ability to do that, the greater your quality of life – the greater your sense of vitality, wellbeing and fulfillment.
 
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