A way to get your mind on the right path..

[Silentpain]

o.k. so yesterday I got the idea that we over exaggerate situations a lot but I also noticed they seem reasonable like for example if I go to a party I always believe nobody wants me there, that is a reasonable belief but it doesn't have any truth to it because if they didn't want me there I wouldn't have gotten invited and so on. Now every time I get this feeling that I will get rejected I do the opposite of what I feel I should do like go to the party instead of avoid it so I don't make people upset for me being there according to my ants thought. This will help prove to your mind that your thoughts are not real and will help you understand that you do have thoughts that aren't real but seem real.

Another thing I would like to tell you is a method that helps you remember how to socialize and maybe even help you practice socializing for future events where you could possibly meet new people. This really helps me feel comfortable before talking to people and easier for me to talk to strangers.
Here's the method... right now while your reading this imagine a person next to you it can be a close friend, sister, or someone you would normally get anxiety from. Now make up a conversation for both of you it could be about weather, what are you doing today, or a personal conversation you once had. When you do this see how comfortable it is to talk to this person you see that the only difference in this is the person is not really there but you still know what to say and your anxiety isn't stopping you from talking. If you understand this method you realize that it's all in your head the feeling of I'm not good enough and I'm not really good at socializing ....I can tell from most of the post that all of you know how to socialize. Good luck don't give up if it's not working just keeping doing it to get the idea that the difference is very little when you imagine and when your actually talking to a person from your real life.

 

[Shyguy4]

It does help and good advice on doing the opposite of what you would normally do, the avoidance is making me loose relationships with people so that good that you know there's a problem in that.

 

[SickestJoke]

Here's the method... right now while your reading this imagine a person next to you it can be a close friend, sister, or someone you would normally get anxiety from. Now make up a conversation for both of you it could be about weather, what are you doing today, or a personal conversation you once had. When you do this see how comfortable it is to talk to this person you see that the only difference in this is the person is not really there but you still know what to say and your anxiety isn't stopping you from talking. If you understand this method you realize that it's all in your head the feeling of I'm not good enough and I'm not really good at socializing ....I can tell from most of the post that all of you know how to socialize. Good luck don't give up if it's not working just keeping doing it to get the idea that the difference is very little when you imagine and when your actually talking to a person from your real life.

It's great you're taking steps to improve yourself, and you have a strong attitude about not giving up. But I would be careful with this method because it's bordering on multiple personality disorder. A common difficulty among SA sufferers is that we tend to be inside of our own heads a little too much.

As for socializing the best practice would be the real thing: talking to people. When that's not possible try watching interviews on YouTube, talk shows and things like that, so you can see what comfortable interactions look like. I think that would provide more insight for you than to have imaginary conversations. I hope this helps and stay strong.