hunkychunky1
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Hi Again, If you read my last post you wil know my problem.,
Now my PTSD/ trauma/ rage has passed i am left with a difficult dilema.
I am pretty sure i was Co dependant and possibly Bi Polar but since breaking my relationship addiction with a so called friend after six months of therapy i am a little wiser. The problem now is this I still see this man
at a club where we play snooker in the same team and i keep my distance and only exchange niceties for the sake of others.
I am really unhappy because i have allowed him to coerse and manipulate my emotions. I have enabled him and kept his devious secrets (repeated cheating on his girlfriend) whilst he bragged about his conquests. what was i doing ? i think i was so needy that i just accepted
the way he was without question. His girlfriend had suspicions and asked me to keep an eye on him while she was away on regular trips abroad.
when i challenged him he became angry and controlling.
I have been threatened by him saying he will end our friendship if i speak.
My mother was cheated on by a man who left her pregnant and he has done the same to a girl i know. He has no sense of responsibility and uses people indiscriminately. He tried to get in between a girl and me and again
with his best friends girl. i know what my problem is what is his ?
I have told him he is selfish irresponsible and immature but that is a bit rich comming from me as i feel i have been co dependant.
He is now spreading rumours about me to protect his own secrets which
are affecting my social life. allthough i have been controlling he now
wants to control the things i might say about him. How can i protect my self and my right to attend the sports club when he is being so devious.
The problem is that i know his secrets and i am obviously seen as a threat. He continually makes underhand remarks to try to destableize
my now growing confidence and improveing self esteem. I believe he controlls his girlfriend by emotionally keeping her down and i can see she loves him and is blind to his cheating and manipulating ways.
I honestly am torn between warning her and just keeping my nose out.
just to recap he is doing three things
1. controlling me i am now unavailable
2. controling his girlfriend.
3. Trying desperately to discredit me to the commitee of the club who i have just realised seem to be against me.
How do i stop his devious behaviour ? As it has gone beyond a joke !
I can see he is panicing and becoming paranoid as i become stronger
(thankyou therapy ) i dont want to hurt him as i feel sorry for him as he
obviously has problems of his own.
But i will no longer be controlled , threatened or gagged and made to look
like i am the bad person. What do i do ???????
Now my PTSD/ trauma/ rage has passed i am left with a difficult dilema.
I am pretty sure i was Co dependant and possibly Bi Polar but since breaking my relationship addiction with a so called friend after six months of therapy i am a little wiser. The problem now is this I still see this man
at a club where we play snooker in the same team and i keep my distance and only exchange niceties for the sake of others.
I am really unhappy because i have allowed him to coerse and manipulate my emotions. I have enabled him and kept his devious secrets (repeated cheating on his girlfriend) whilst he bragged about his conquests. what was i doing ? i think i was so needy that i just accepted
the way he was without question. His girlfriend had suspicions and asked me to keep an eye on him while she was away on regular trips abroad.
when i challenged him he became angry and controlling.
I have been threatened by him saying he will end our friendship if i speak.
My mother was cheated on by a man who left her pregnant and he has done the same to a girl i know. He has no sense of responsibility and uses people indiscriminately. He tried to get in between a girl and me and again
with his best friends girl. i know what my problem is what is his ?
I have told him he is selfish irresponsible and immature but that is a bit rich comming from me as i feel i have been co dependant.
He is now spreading rumours about me to protect his own secrets which
are affecting my social life. allthough i have been controlling he now
wants to control the things i might say about him. How can i protect my self and my right to attend the sports club when he is being so devious.
The problem is that i know his secrets and i am obviously seen as a threat. He continually makes underhand remarks to try to destableize
my now growing confidence and improveing self esteem. I believe he controlls his girlfriend by emotionally keeping her down and i can see she loves him and is blind to his cheating and manipulating ways.
I honestly am torn between warning her and just keeping my nose out.
just to recap he is doing three things
1. controlling me i am now unavailable
2. controling his girlfriend.
3. Trying desperately to discredit me to the commitee of the club who i have just realised seem to be against me.
How do i stop his devious behaviour ? As it has gone beyond a joke !
I can see he is panicing and becoming paranoid as i become stronger
(thankyou therapy ) i dont want to hurt him as i feel sorry for him as he
obviously has problems of his own.
But i will no longer be controlled , threatened or gagged and made to look
like i am the bad person. What do i do ???????
