Trina
New member
Hello everyone, I'm new here, and pretty much just had a question.
I really think my boyfriend has social phobia, yet I have no idea what to do to help him, as he isn't willing to do anything about it himself. Here's the deal:
I've been with him for several years now, and we've always pretty much stayed to ourselves with only a couple of other close friends. Since then I've become a lot more social and met a ton of people, while he has become progressively less social. Ever since he got his own apartment he has had no human interraction except his classmates whom he avoids if at all possible, and myself. We've been discussing moving in together for quite a while and the chance has finally come up to do so a while ago. This is when he admitted that he really does not feel comfortable living or being around people for long periods of time. In fact, he said it scared him to death. I don't feel comfortable being his only friend, and I've tried to get him to meet new people, but if I ever mention someone to him, he jokingly asks me if I slept with them or something of that sort. Now that part I really don't get since I've been nothing but loyal to him and we've been friends long enough for him to know that I wouldn't do that. I feel like this is completely ruining our relationship and finally he admitted it's a problem, yet he still isn't doing anything about it. He just says he's busy and puts it off. I know he probably just wants to be left alone but he's my best friend and I don't want to see him this unhappy. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation or on the other side of the spectrum of that situation, and how you dealt with this. Any help appreciated, thanks.
I really think my boyfriend has social phobia, yet I have no idea what to do to help him, as he isn't willing to do anything about it himself. Here's the deal:
I've been with him for several years now, and we've always pretty much stayed to ourselves with only a couple of other close friends. Since then I've become a lot more social and met a ton of people, while he has become progressively less social. Ever since he got his own apartment he has had no human interraction except his classmates whom he avoids if at all possible, and myself. We've been discussing moving in together for quite a while and the chance has finally come up to do so a while ago. This is when he admitted that he really does not feel comfortable living or being around people for long periods of time. In fact, he said it scared him to death. I don't feel comfortable being his only friend, and I've tried to get him to meet new people, but if I ever mention someone to him, he jokingly asks me if I slept with them or something of that sort. Now that part I really don't get since I've been nothing but loyal to him and we've been friends long enough for him to know that I wouldn't do that. I feel like this is completely ruining our relationship and finally he admitted it's a problem, yet he still isn't doing anything about it. He just says he's busy and puts it off. I know he probably just wants to be left alone but he's my best friend and I don't want to see him this unhappy. I just want to know if anyone has been in a similar situation or on the other side of the spectrum of that situation, and how you dealt with this. Any help appreciated, thanks.