Thamior
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I am currently 17 years old, and despite my age, my peers and I agree that I have had to deal with an unrelentingly painful bullying experience. It’s over now – thanks to some other unfortunate, but at the same time fortunate on my behalf, happenings. It started during high school. There were many occasions where I told someone of high authority about what was happening to me. The response I received usually seemed like I was nothing but an annoyance to the lady behind the office counter. There are actually very few people who care about what is happening unless they are directly related to the problem, or its their job. As the situation worsened I was pushed to the very end of the school councilors appointments. The man never had anything that would aid in me escaping such a disgusting thing. He used to always tell me to "ignore it mate, it's the only thing you can do" or, "I understand, just walk past them and don't give them the satisfaction their after - they just want to look tough and popular in front of their mates". Wrong answers! The most astonishing part about all of this is that those very same answers came from everyone I spoke to. Of course I put them into practice - for far too long I tried to listen to exactly those words - family, friends, councilors, peers, the police. Everything got worse. When the bully's found out I was snitching, I was beaten down with metal posts. Let me tell you something. Ignoring the bully fuels them - you become an easy target. Don't get stuck in this routine.
Here's the real point to this post - this is more the physical side.
Don't listen to people who have no first hand experience in these situations.
Don't just go to the gym and buff up - muscle means nothing when you don't know how to use it. Instead enroll in a self defense class. Preferably one where you know your bully isn't enrolled.
Don't listen to people who tell you not to feel sad - its natural to feel unhappy in many situations - be positive in conjunction with your natural feelings at the time. Confusing, and contradiction I know but just try it, suppressing the feeling doesn't make it go away. Think "OK this part of my life sucks, but this part I really have going for me" - even if it is the only thing you believe you've got going for you.
Do analyze the situation your in properly - after achieving some recognition in your martial art course don't think your invincible. If you're surrounded by a bunch of guys - don't take them all on.
Do analyze their patterns in behavior. The only way to beet a bully is to beet him at his own game. By learning how they react to certain situations you have a better chance of avoiding or making the confrontation that finally cuts him down.
Don't become anti-social - speak to girls (not in a flirtatious way). Girls can stick up for you better than any guy. After all the bullies tend to be at their peek performance when a hottie is walking by. Chances are (due to the fact that girls do mature quicker and at a younger age) that she thinks he is a total loser and would give anything to have a go at him.
These are merely points and snippets of advice that I have to offer. They may not work for you. Remember they do come from someone with first hand experience.
Lately I attend year 12 and I rarely experience any form of bullying. I have done a couple of years in muay thai - used it once in the school yard. The guy was twice the size of me with muscles the size of my head. I'm a skinny vegetarian. He hurt me ... a lot. On the plus side, I broke his jaw and cracked 2 ribs. I never thought in my entire life I could ever stick up for myself physically. Yes I got hurt but I also never got picked on after that. I'm not saying to go brutally smash everyone - just telling you my experience.
Remember to be polite to everyone as not everyone is out to get you. Being rude to others because your upset will only worsen your situation and your consequences.
Here's the real point to this post - this is more the physical side.
Don't listen to people who have no first hand experience in these situations.
Don't just go to the gym and buff up - muscle means nothing when you don't know how to use it. Instead enroll in a self defense class. Preferably one where you know your bully isn't enrolled.
Don't listen to people who tell you not to feel sad - its natural to feel unhappy in many situations - be positive in conjunction with your natural feelings at the time. Confusing, and contradiction I know but just try it, suppressing the feeling doesn't make it go away. Think "OK this part of my life sucks, but this part I really have going for me" - even if it is the only thing you believe you've got going for you.
Do analyze the situation your in properly - after achieving some recognition in your martial art course don't think your invincible. If you're surrounded by a bunch of guys - don't take them all on.
Do analyze their patterns in behavior. The only way to beet a bully is to beet him at his own game. By learning how they react to certain situations you have a better chance of avoiding or making the confrontation that finally cuts him down.
Don't become anti-social - speak to girls (not in a flirtatious way). Girls can stick up for you better than any guy. After all the bullies tend to be at their peek performance when a hottie is walking by. Chances are (due to the fact that girls do mature quicker and at a younger age) that she thinks he is a total loser and would give anything to have a go at him.
These are merely points and snippets of advice that I have to offer. They may not work for you. Remember they do come from someone with first hand experience.
Lately I attend year 12 and I rarely experience any form of bullying. I have done a couple of years in muay thai - used it once in the school yard. The guy was twice the size of me with muscles the size of my head. I'm a skinny vegetarian. He hurt me ... a lot. On the plus side, I broke his jaw and cracked 2 ribs. I never thought in my entire life I could ever stick up for myself physically. Yes I got hurt but I also never got picked on after that. I'm not saying to go brutally smash everyone - just telling you my experience.
Remember to be polite to everyone as not everyone is out to get you. Being rude to others because your upset will only worsen your situation and your consequences.