Anonymous
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When I think back I'm pretty sure SA (social anxiety) first became an issue (although small) in grade 7-8. However, as time has progressed, so has my SA. I almost didn't finish high school because of SA. The only thing that kept me going to school (when I did) was the fact that my parents were sacrificing so much to pay my tuition; so I made a point of trying my hardest, even though my daily life was a living hell. Life hasn't gotten any better.
I have essentially failed out of college. I couldn't concentrate during class (panic attacks during tests are very frustrating), and I could not bring myself to attend on a regular basis because of SA. I can't even bring myself to shop for new clothes, which in turn makes SA even more prominant (when I'm not comfortable with my appearance, panic attacks are even worse). It's getting to the point where I hardly ever leave my house. My parents don't have extra money to pay for new clothes, and I can't get or hold a decent job because of SA. They have already sacrificed so much for me and I don't for a second take it for granted, but there is only so much I can do on my own.
SA creates a hypothetical prison around me that limits how I can live my life. I cannot attend a normal university because of SA. I cannot attend an online university because I don't meet the age (21+) or initial transfer credit requirements (48+). In two years, however, I will meet that age requirement, but I cannot (for the reasons in the previous paragraph) get 48 college credits. I can't get a job because of SA, and even if I did get one I wouldn't be able to keep it.
I have lost hope in attaining any of my long-term goals (college, career, relationship). Even if I found a prospective treatment that would work for me, it is most likely beyond my reach for financial reasons. My parents have always been supportive, but I know I am becoming a burden to them (although they would never admit it).
Because I no longer have any hope I will be able to treat my SA well enough to make social situations bareable or that I will be able to live with it, I have become indifferent and uncaring. Oddly enough, I do not feel sad that I cannot achieve my life goals. My motivation scales with frustration. For the past few years I’ve come to accept the fact that my goals are beyond my reach. I cannot change any more on my own. I’m just going to enjoy my life as much as I possibly can in my isolation.
I don’t mean to be pessimistic, but even if my parents try to get me treatment like before, when it fails, they will most likely get angry and frustrated like before (like I was when I first realized my limitations). They will probably press me to go back to school and/or get a job, eventually ending with them threatening that I either get a job or they will kick me out. I’ve decided that when it reaches this point will be when I kill myself. I see it like this anology: Life is like a school test with three questions. I can’t answer these questions because of my own limitations, so rather than turning in a blank paper, I simply won’t turn a paper in.
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I have essentially failed out of college. I couldn't concentrate during class (panic attacks during tests are very frustrating), and I could not bring myself to attend on a regular basis because of SA. I can't even bring myself to shop for new clothes, which in turn makes SA even more prominant (when I'm not comfortable with my appearance, panic attacks are even worse). It's getting to the point where I hardly ever leave my house. My parents don't have extra money to pay for new clothes, and I can't get or hold a decent job because of SA. They have already sacrificed so much for me and I don't for a second take it for granted, but there is only so much I can do on my own.
SA creates a hypothetical prison around me that limits how I can live my life. I cannot attend a normal university because of SA. I cannot attend an online university because I don't meet the age (21+) or initial transfer credit requirements (48+). In two years, however, I will meet that age requirement, but I cannot (for the reasons in the previous paragraph) get 48 college credits. I can't get a job because of SA, and even if I did get one I wouldn't be able to keep it.
I have lost hope in attaining any of my long-term goals (college, career, relationship). Even if I found a prospective treatment that would work for me, it is most likely beyond my reach for financial reasons. My parents have always been supportive, but I know I am becoming a burden to them (although they would never admit it).
Because I no longer have any hope I will be able to treat my SA well enough to make social situations bareable or that I will be able to live with it, I have become indifferent and uncaring. Oddly enough, I do not feel sad that I cannot achieve my life goals. My motivation scales with frustration. For the past few years I’ve come to accept the fact that my goals are beyond my reach. I cannot change any more on my own. I’m just going to enjoy my life as much as I possibly can in my isolation.
I don’t mean to be pessimistic, but even if my parents try to get me treatment like before, when it fails, they will most likely get angry and frustrated like before (like I was when I first realized my limitations). They will probably press me to go back to school and/or get a job, eventually ending with them threatening that I either get a job or they will kick me out. I’ve decided that when it reaches this point will be when I kill myself. I see it like this anology: Life is like a school test with three questions. I can’t answer these questions because of my own limitations, so rather than turning in a blank paper, I simply won’t turn a paper in.
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