People get wrong impression of you ???

anybody else find this ?

At work I find it so hard to talk to people...after I started and the initial yeh this where im from etc I sit there n cant think of anything else to say
then at every work place ends up me just sitting there n saying nothing all day

get feeling people feel im ignorant or something when obviously isnt case at all
think people have made sly comments in convos that Im gay aswell which Im not but think they may think that just cause Im so shy n that :roll: and also cause i sit with few extremley pretty girls at work but dont ever talk to em but its first for em

anyways is just a bit shite really.....find only people who get the right impression of me are my couple of close mates who dont see that often but only people can relax around and be able to make convo

sorry for rant

Hi, teandtoast

I am the same. The only conversation I ever have is about the job. I have been working there for going on 6 months and maybe had one social conversation with the boss and maybe 2 with the person I work with.

My advice to you is wait for something on the news that really interests you and just go for it and talk to someone about it. ''Did you see that...last night?''

Although easier said than done.

Good Luck

One of my main worries is someone getting the wrong impression of me, ignorant, stuck up etc. I reguarly have to walk away from people litteraly when there in a convosation with me because i panic and after i feel guilty for the person aspecially if there quiet because they might feel like the same way as me and its a harsh way of life i suppose

yup every single person gets the total opposite opinion of me than how i rlly am and they think its true or know their right about me 4 some reason, ppl c me as prude, a good-girl, inocent, quiet, poliet, kind u know where im goin but rlly im not prude but im closer to that than a slut ive had a few boyfriends and have madeout but not since my SA has got 10X worste god 2day a guy left a message on my phone and i was shaking and turning red and getting freaked out, idk whats happened 2 me but anyways oh and i guess i look like a good-girl idk but ill try anything u kno,, y not? and if u get 2 know me im not afraid 2 say what i think 2 u i 4got the word 4 that im,,,, asertive mabye? idk and sarcastic and funny and cool but i guess ppl at school that ive never talked 2 kno me better than myself! (sarcastic) lol

The first impression I give is unimaginably bad. It's worse than it would be if I conciously tried to be boring and nonsociable. I would give a better first impression by soaking my hair in greese and matting it with twigs, straw, and mud, then rabidly saying in a slaughtered Ukranian accent "in de photograph? I am in de photograph? Yes?" while trying to hand people a plastic bag of full of old newspapers. Honestly, it is worse than that. And the worst part about it is that the circumstances of my life are really quite unusual, remarkable in some ways... but no one will ever know, because after one conversation (which is too early to get into the details of my life) most people (what few who do make themselves available to meet) never talk to me again.
Maybe I should try pulling off the crazy approach. It might go over better. And by the by, I have been called gay more than once.

I often have the impression that others think I am stupid. What makes things worse is I always have to speak in a foreign language, which makes it doubly hard for me to talk to people. I am actually quite fluent in German, but stammer and hesitate a lot because I feel so nervous around everyone. So, I guess people think I'm some kind of half-wit with nothing important or interesting to say. Back when I was in school, people used to think I was stuck-up or snooty, because I didn't socialize or make converstaion. I have to say that being mistaken for stupid is much worse than being mistaken for being snooty.

Im in the same position as you man. Ive been working at this company for about 7 months and I work with a bunch of portuguese guys that dont speak english often. I've had a few conversations but most of the time I end up saying nothing all day. I feel like alot of people dont like me at this job and get the feeling people may be talking shit about me in portuguese. Im only shy when it comes to initial conversation so the thing that makes me really mad is they cant say it to my face. I may be shy but Im not one to back down from a fight. I use my video ipod as a way to take me out of the situation and not have to deal with people which probably isnt healthy. When I first started there everybody said hi to me and asked me questions, now people dont even look at me when I walk past them so I sometimes intentionally snub people because they've done it to me which just prolongs the cycle of antisocialness.

I feel the same way.
I don`t think I let that many people see the "real me".
I know I could communicate well with people,
but it`s like I freeze up or something

This is the exact problem I am having - which is the actual reason I came to this forum. I use to post to this forum about a year or so ago... but I had been doing good. At my old job I had gotten out of my shell, and everyone who had thought I was really depressed or something cuz I never talked to anyone, got to know the real me.

I changed jobs and before I started I told myself I MUST be friendly and talk to people, and it might be scary, I must do it. I've done alright for the most part, with a few people I talk to regularly - and most people don't suspect anything weird about me.

My only problem is the guy that sits next to me is a really friendly guy. When I come in, in this mornings, he would say hi to me. He is not on my team, so there is just no real reason for me to talk to him, and through the weeks, I think he's gotten the impression taht I don't want to talk to him because I'm snooty or don't like him or something. That's not the case.

I just don't know how to just start talking to a person without a real reason to. And now it's stressing me out and bringing back all the social struggles I've had all of my life and beating myself down with it.

He's kinda stopped saying, hi, and when he does he doesn't seem happy to do it. Sigh. Anyways, just had to get it out.

I think people think I am extremely rude, when someone says hello, I can usually only manage a tiny wave back, I sneak into work so no-one sees me come in, and so I won't have to go through the awkwardness of greeting them.

I also think people think I am dumb, because I can't get words out, I start blushing and stuttering.....and no-one can hear what I'm saying anyway because my voice is so soft.

Oh the humanity 8O :?

i know how you feel- I've the same problem.

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i think

from my experiences... most ppl when starting a new job or making new friends & such... are kind of quiet & shy. When you're quiet nobody can really make a 'real' assumption of your personality bc they haven't fully met you. they can only think that maybe you are shy or quiet. nothing worse.
also I think that some ppl are HORRIBLE at judging others personalities & thinking they know someone whereas some ppl have the gift to know you very quickly... or at least be able to sum up what they have learned about you in a short time with the correct words.
for ex.. my g/f of 2yrs kind of knows me but makes incorrect assumptions at times. Since my recent relapse of SA she has gotten to see what I went through 4yrs ago when I had it. She says she thinks she has finally gotten to know the 'real me'. I'm thinking to myself...(me going through SA doesn't totallly make up me, me when I overcame it was me too.) the harder side of my life doesn't just make up who I am.. anyway some ppl just misjudge. You have to learn to ignore & correct them if you want. Other ppl within a few hours of talking to me have been able to accurately describe the 'me' that they met with in that time.