outside of my house

I'm so frustrated...Whenever I go outside of my house, whether it's to go to or from my car, or to get the mail, or...well thats the only thing I do right outside of my house, But whenever I do I get so nervous that my neighbors are going to say hi or to me. I usually check to see if they are out there, and if they are I always stare straight ahead or down or something hoping to god that they don't say anything to me. But, they are always freakin' out there! A lot of times, when I come home, one of them seems to come out, it's so weird. Anyone else weird like this?
I really wish that my house was more secluded and private. I hate how the houses are so close together. Because I'd really like to be able to go outside and relax, because I like being outside, but this makes me never want to. I can't even go out back because they could look right across and see me or come out and say something to me.

There is a neighbour who stays across the road from me who has stayed there for nealry 4 years and last week i was the first time i have ever sayed hello to him,it was a situation i wasnt able to get out of as he came out to go to his car and me to my car.I sayed hello but after it i was so frustrated for some reason i just kept thinking did he hear me and did i say hello loud enough.I normaly check out the window first before i go out just take make sure no one is around If my neighbous are out in there garden then i just cant go out at all it makes me feel like iam trapped as i cant even look out the windows incase they think iam watching them :roll:

Scottish_Player said:

I sayed hello but after it i was so frustrated for some reason i just kept thinking did he hear me and did i say hello loud enough.I normaly check out the window first before i go out just take make sure no one is around If my neighbous are out in there garden then i just cant go out at all it makes me feel like iam trapped as i cant even look out the windows incase they think iam watching them :roll:

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I sometimes do that when I say hello to someone, I always wonder if they even heard me or what. I also feel trapped when they are staying out there, especially if its several of them out there. And I also get worried that they see me peering out the window

Another thing i havent done in about 4/5 years is walk 30 feet either side of my gate,iam always straight into my car or van.I often think of getting up real early in the morning just to go for a walk around the streets where i live as i havent walked them in years but i think what if someone is out and they see me and all the usual feelings i wont go into them cause you will prob know what iam on about.

i dont like my house situation either, my neighborhood is such a bore too. i go out all the time but i never enjoy it. all i can think is negative thoughts and no matter how hard i try i cant stop it. sometimes i think why do i even bother going out when i know im not going to have any fun. but i go crazy just staying at home. its soooooo boring

i am the same way....where i live i only have to worry about one neighbour...but she is a nosy type one, and she always wants me to come over for tea (she's really old)...so i always look out the window to see if anyone's around before i go outside...and i never answer the door if i am not expecting anyone 8O ..i hide upstairs if someone comes over unannounced :roll:....

Ditto

Moog,

Everything you just said about hiding from the delivery guy, ditto!. Then I have to wait about 10 minutes after he knocks before peeking out the window to make sure he is gone!

Outside of my house...

WOW!! I am so like that!!! I can't believe someone else feels the same way! I wait till it is dark outside to check my mail and even then I have to make sure no one is outside - I live in a typical neighborhood with houses just a stones throw away... The house next-door to me is too close for my comfort and there is a space in the hedge between our houses and every time my neighbor is home I am too sensitive too go outside for fear that he will be able to see me!! If I do and want to smoke a cigarette I make sure that he is not outside and keep my back against the house to stay clear of his view!! I am sooooo relieved to see that I am not the only one that feels this way.

My AvPD and Social Phobia has become so severe this past 6 months that I can't even take care of my lawn and surrounding property - the weeds are taking over! I feel like a total loser - last year I was gung ho about the whole landscaping thing but this winter hit me hard - much harder that I ever expected and now I am totally afraid to even be seen by anyone.

I won't even get in my car if anyone is outside... I have given up going to the grocery store...

You are not alone and not weird by my account
Elizabeth

I feel weird with neighbors
there are no boxmails outside the houses in my country ,so I dont have to go out to check my mail thanks god

thoughtless said:

When I hear the doorbell I always look out the window to see who it is and most of the times I just pretend no one's home like I did just yesterday.

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hahaa same here :?