not sure if i'm in the right place?

Hello, i'm new to this site. I'm 20 and mum to a beautiful six-month-old baby boy and I have a partner of 4 years.

I've just come on here because I need some advice on some quite personal problems. First of all, I've always been quite a shy person or "someone who keeps themselves to themselves"... I've been like it for a very long time now, possibly 10 years? I'm not quite sure what it is but my confidence has always been really low and I seem to hate social situations which is dead hard. I'm not like it with close family or VERY close friends, its like I have a kind of comfort zone that I'm scared to break out of? If there is not-as-close family members (the ones I see all the time) I can act like I would if I was confronted with someone I don't know. I hate to be noticed and hate attention being drawn to myself so I avoid it? by this I mean I don't talk alot to new people, so probably seem like a loner, I don't talk in case I say something stupid or if I'm out clubbing I don't always enjoy dancing for the same reasons. Its strange. I find it hard to make new friends as I'm always so bottled up with what to say. This resulted in such a hard time when I went to school, college or work as I tried to avoid people altogether EXCEPT really close friends or family. I hate it because I may seem reliant on them. I remember the times I had no close ones around and I'd absolutely try my best to avoid everyone else which looking back I mustve looked like a right **** in cantenes and things being on my own!! anyway I'm due back to work in 3 months so firstly I need advice on getting myself back-on-track. For instance, today I'm staying indoors and writing this stupid message because people in my comfort zone are out doing something else. I DO go out everyday whether its for long walks, going shopping, whatever but the fact that I'm don't seem to socialise when those close to me aren't around is really worrying and I'm sick of it now. I've lost 20lbs recently, I wasnt fat in the first place and I'm still dieting because I don't feel confident enough but I'm not actually sure if my weight is the problem!! I think its a mental thing!!! what do you think this is and how do I get over it? thought I wouldve grown out of it by now.......

Thanks.......

Hi and welcome. Congrats on your new little one.

Could you push yourself to talk to people and widen your comfort zone??? How would that make you feel , is it a definite no way or is it something although you feel uncomfortable that you could do.

Hows about joining a baby and mummy group and meeting other young mothers? You could then talk about your babies and have something to talk about in common.

thanks for the reply....
the thought of trying it is OK until it comes to doing it then I panic and will always find a way out, no matter how determined I feel beforehand!! its dead weird.
i don't understand why i get like this!

I have it too. Lots here do too so you are in the right place.

Stick around and chat with us and hopefully you can move forward with it. Not sure I can help you with advise really seeing as I'm just as bad!!

OK thanks, I will have a read through other posts.

Also, I'm quite dependant on alcohol to bring out my confidence. Before I fell pregnant with my son I was drinking everyday just to feel good and obviously I stopped the day I had a positive pregnancy test... at the moment I'm only drinking on the weekends (because of my diet). But sometimes I feel so tempted to drink and feel normal.

OK thanks, I will have a read through other posts.

Also, I'm quite dependant on alcohol to bring out my confidence. Before I fell pregnant with my son I was drinking everyday just to feel good and obviously I stopped the day I had a positive pregnancy test... at the moment I'm only drinking on the weekends (because of my diet). But sometimes I feel so tempted to drink and feel normal.