New boss - complete piss taker

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Hi everyone, I recently started a new job (took an internal vacancy) and it turns out that my boss is a complete piss taker ALL THE TIME. She puts everyone down including me constantly and is really intimidating. it's making me feel incredibly anxious at work, I know I'm not going to be able to take much of this but dont know how to react back to her..the weird thing is everyone else seems to just take it with a pinch of salt but I can;t bear it.... what should I do? I can't keep flitting from job to job ..... :?
 

Damien

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Okay, my job involves going to buildign sites alot to do prewires of Audio Gear. Now building sites are all practical jokes and put downs.

Two ways of doing this, if she puts YOU down, shrug and make a put down about yourself that is funnier, trippier etc just better. She'll laugh, you will to. Then walk away.

Second, when she gets on a roll of piss taking, do it back to her. "come on slow coach, whats taking your problem?!" she would say. I would then look up, grin and say "im looking at my problem" then laugh.

As bad as it is, there are work places like that. Once you cease to be a challenge, the put downs cease to be important. She's just trying to "be one of the boys" and throw her weight around as boss. It may be an inferior thing too, she wants to keep you guys down because she knows you are all better than her in some way shape or form.

Damien
 

Horatio

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my work colleague is the same

its as if he can sense my weakness (SP) and tries to exploit it/make fun of it as much as he can

has now got to the point where he talks to himself loudly in the background whenever I try to make a phone call, tells other people round work lies about me so they all laugh at me (at one meeting I overheard him lie about me on 4 different occasions to different people including the head of the company), he fires rubber bands at my head all day long when Im working at my computer and has even thrown several 400 page hard cover books at me, one which hit me and bruised me badly.

Ive politely asked him to stop but he wont, it was a mistake thinking me with SP could fit into a workplace. People just want to exploit us.

We are better off living a life in bed or living six feet under
 

Makaylee

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Dang, dude... If I were you, Horatio, SP or not, I would make myself kick your colleagues ass. I couln't put up with that shit. I may be shy, but he just sounds like a total buttmuch... :p !

What would happen if you started throwing stuff at him, and laughing maniacly everytime he started talking to you?? :twisted:

Hey... You could even start some funky rumor about how all his ex-girlfreinds got syphilis from him, or how you used to chill with him in high school and you found out about his obsession with certain barnyard animals, or something... LOL.

I think I'm just mean, but, oh well,

You should do it.... ;)

Nah, but really. Work is no place to have to deal with all of that crap. Considering you have to be there almost every day, all day, the least they can do is make it a somewhat comfortable place for everyone.



Makaylee
 
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I am going to face my fear (ie my boss) next week. Am dreading it but I know I have to nip it in the bud before it becomes a regular thing - Hey Horatio, what say you and me stand up to our tormentors this week? It may just be a small comeback or at least something but we've to to give it a go. It's going to be difficult but imagine how proud we are going to feel of ourselvees because it's a damned difficult thing to do. What say you??
 

mistmephit

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livinghell - I wish you luck in confronting you boss. I hope she can understand where you’re coming from.

Isn't there anyone at your work whom you can talk to about this (i.e. Human Resources) or even your bosses boss?

However it is possible that talking to your bosses boss my cause more trouble than it's worth.
 

Damien

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Ive had a boss just like that. I told him where to shove it. he turned around and said "well you're the youngest and i will always treat my young employees like shit" I stood up, put my hand out and said "and that attitude is why i am leaving. have a good day"

Dont let them win. You can still be a prick in defeat. ;)

Damien
 

cody2468

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I have got sp really bad but there is no way I would let anyone treat me like that. When I was younger and newer to the workforce I used to be too scared to stand up for myself whether it was too the boss or another workmate. After a while I learnt to give back as good as I get but that doesnt always achieve much as then you are going down to their level which is pretty low to begin with. I go out of my way to be really nice to them, smile and be friendly as if they are trying to imtimidate you or put you down it will make them feel bad if they know they arent getting to you anymore. I do this all the time and it is really affective. The happier you are (even if you are only pretending) the better.

If someone was telling lies about you and you heard them I would ask them in front of everyone if they are jealous that they havent got a life of their own and tell them that they must be very sad and lonely people to go around gossiping about other people. I would not put up with it.

As for people throwing books at me I would speak to the supervisor or human resources person and ask them what your options are as that in a way is a form of harrassment and you should not have to put up with it, the other worker is still a small child that needs to grow up.
 

Horatio

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livinghell said:
I am going to face my fear (ie my boss) next week. Am dreading it but I know I have to nip it in the bud before it becomes a regular thing - Hey Horatio, what say you and me stand up to our tormentors this week? It may just be a small comeback or at least something but we've to to give it a go. It's going to be difficult but imagine how proud we are going to feel of ourselvees because it's a damned difficult thing to do. What say you??

Ive only got a few more months work at that place so Im gonna stick it out. Im hopeless at confrontation, whenever I try to stand up for myself I get trampled into the dirt. For me it is already a regular thing, wherever I go people pick up on my SP and try to take advantage of it. its human nature I guess, exploit the weak
 
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