Uncomfortableman
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I've just discovered this website and when I saw the name of it I immediately thought that is something I can relate to.
What's my situation? I'm 36, educated and I look fine (not conceited or lieing, but I look okay).
I was a real extrovert until my teens. I was small for my age and felt out of depth as a teenager. I was never the type to fit in with others or be part of a group. After numerous bad experiences with people, I became reclusive and also fearful of various group situations.
Over time, I gradually overcame my fear of public situations. I still find socializing stressful, but I'm not fearful of it. I'm still a loner, and generally prefer my own company.
I find people irritate/offend me. I am over-sensitive.
I got married in the last couple of years, I met a lady through a mutual friend while working abroad, to cut a long story short it was a torturous, painful experience. The wife was often moody because her family lived in a different country, because of her moods we drifted apart and the marriage ended.
I was miffed because I had so much love to give, but it was never reciprocated in my view.
It was my first marriage, it was a big step for me to marry but I thought it was worth a try.
The divorce came through last April.
I am absolutely 'mad' about women. I spend virtually all of my spare time dreaming of them. I've always appreciated the multi-faceted nature of women, and that's what makes me desire them most of the time.
When I say multi-faceted, I love the fact they can be maternal, attractive, considerate, sensitive etc. I love the whole picture. (Nerd, I know)
I am damned if I do, damned if I don't. I sometimes desperately crave female company, but at other times I feel glad to be alone, especially in light of the failed marriage.
I want to be totally intimate with someone, close to them in every way, not just in the obvious sense. I dream of being in that state, I wish I could have that all the time sometimes. To be close to someone all the time would be lovely, unrealistic definitely, but that's my dream.
I'm a bit emotional and over-sensitive. I channel my emotions creatively. I am putting the final touches to an album of music I've made.
I feel a massive sense of emptiness because of the missing woman in my life. I also feel a bit sad because I have lots of love to offer and it is not being put to use. I feel I am a waste of space in the love department.
I'm not looking for pity/sympathy, but I feel a terrific sense of relief saying what I feel.
In summary, I am educated, a loving/kind individual and I look okay. Sometimes, I scratch my head and think 'why am I so very unpopular with women?'
'Why has my life been so unsuccessful with women?' It's not self-pity, but a realization of how I am slowly wasting away due to lack of love and affection I am able to give and receive.
I feel like nothing I do will ever make a woman love me and sadly, reality has confirmed that.
What's my situation? I'm 36, educated and I look fine (not conceited or lieing, but I look okay).
I was a real extrovert until my teens. I was small for my age and felt out of depth as a teenager. I was never the type to fit in with others or be part of a group. After numerous bad experiences with people, I became reclusive and also fearful of various group situations.
Over time, I gradually overcame my fear of public situations. I still find socializing stressful, but I'm not fearful of it. I'm still a loner, and generally prefer my own company.
I find people irritate/offend me. I am over-sensitive.
I got married in the last couple of years, I met a lady through a mutual friend while working abroad, to cut a long story short it was a torturous, painful experience. The wife was often moody because her family lived in a different country, because of her moods we drifted apart and the marriage ended.
I was miffed because I had so much love to give, but it was never reciprocated in my view.
It was my first marriage, it was a big step for me to marry but I thought it was worth a try.
The divorce came through last April.
I am absolutely 'mad' about women. I spend virtually all of my spare time dreaming of them. I've always appreciated the multi-faceted nature of women, and that's what makes me desire them most of the time.
When I say multi-faceted, I love the fact they can be maternal, attractive, considerate, sensitive etc. I love the whole picture. (Nerd, I know)
I am damned if I do, damned if I don't. I sometimes desperately crave female company, but at other times I feel glad to be alone, especially in light of the failed marriage.
I want to be totally intimate with someone, close to them in every way, not just in the obvious sense. I dream of being in that state, I wish I could have that all the time sometimes. To be close to someone all the time would be lovely, unrealistic definitely, but that's my dream.
I'm a bit emotional and over-sensitive. I channel my emotions creatively. I am putting the final touches to an album of music I've made.
I feel a massive sense of emptiness because of the missing woman in my life. I also feel a bit sad because I have lots of love to offer and it is not being put to use. I feel I am a waste of space in the love department.
I'm not looking for pity/sympathy, but I feel a terrific sense of relief saying what I feel.
In summary, I am educated, a loving/kind individual and I look okay. Sometimes, I scratch my head and think 'why am I so very unpopular with women?'
'Why has my life been so unsuccessful with women?' It's not self-pity, but a realization of how I am slowly wasting away due to lack of love and affection I am able to give and receive.
I feel like nothing I do will ever make a woman love me and sadly, reality has confirmed that.
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