allshiedout
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Recently, I went to a birthday party of a co-worker. Our other co-workers were late in coming and I didn't know anybody else there.
I didn't want to be a leech and just hang out with the birthday boy, so I tried to mingle...but it seems that most weren't that interested in talking to me.
Of note...the birthday boy did introduce me when I arrived, but that didn't really seem to make a difference.
When I mingle with new people, I don't even talk about myself, I try to ask interesting questions about them, but most don't reciprocate. I don't ask them questions that are too personal (like where do you live, etc, but "what kind of work do you do or small talk...). But most will answer in short answers as if they're being questioned by the police. Most don't make eye contact neither.
This isn't the 1st time that this has happened. So it makes me think that there's something wrong with me or my approach....maybe my breath is bad? I don't think so....I'm pretty sensitive about that and try strongly to keep my breath fresh.
I just don't get it...
I didn't want to be a leech and just hang out with the birthday boy, so I tried to mingle...but it seems that most weren't that interested in talking to me.
Of note...the birthday boy did introduce me when I arrived, but that didn't really seem to make a difference.
When I mingle with new people, I don't even talk about myself, I try to ask interesting questions about them, but most don't reciprocate. I don't ask them questions that are too personal (like where do you live, etc, but "what kind of work do you do or small talk...). But most will answer in short answers as if they're being questioned by the police. Most don't make eye contact neither.
This isn't the 1st time that this has happened. So it makes me think that there's something wrong with me or my approach....maybe my breath is bad? I don't think so....I'm pretty sensitive about that and try strongly to keep my breath fresh.
I just don't get it...