Ospi
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Well its now just over a year since iv had SA and even though its very slowly improving there is still one area going nowhere. My problem is specific to going out for a night with mates. Ever since i had 2 weeks in a row where i became extremely anxious and vomited in public iv struggled to find the confidence to go out and have a "good time". Last week i managed to do this and to be honest i felt good, that is until the girls became involved.
I have no issue sitting around a bar drinking and talking with mates but as soon as the talk switches to girls and who looks "hot" in the bar and who want to hook up with who etc etc my anxiety flies through the roof. Im not sure what it is really, in any other situation im fine talking to girls either at uni, etc but theres something about clubs and bars and girls that kills me.
So does anyone else find they have this anxiety issue in similar situations? And if so how have you tackled it? some how i don't think the head on approach would work for me, but its starting to become quite a problem.
I have no issue sitting around a bar drinking and talking with mates but as soon as the talk switches to girls and who looks "hot" in the bar and who want to hook up with who etc etc my anxiety flies through the roof. Im not sure what it is really, in any other situation im fine talking to girls either at uni, etc but theres something about clubs and bars and girls that kills me.
So does anyone else find they have this anxiety issue in similar situations? And if so how have you tackled it? some how i don't think the head on approach would work for me, but its starting to become quite a problem.