The following is from the last paragraph:
Once, I had an intense, emotional cell phone discussion with a friend while riding in a taxi. At a certain point I fell into a strangled silence.
"What's wrong with you?" my friend asked. "Why aren't you talking?"
Covering my mouth with one hand, I whispered, "The driver can hear me."
At this point, my friend said something so lucid, so mind expanding, so simultaneously Socratic and Zenlike, that I memorized it on the spot. I've gained comfort by repeating it to myself in many other situations. I encourage you, too, to memorize this question and use it when you find yourself shrinking back from an imaginary spotlight. My friend said -- and I quote:
"So?"
This brilliant interrogatory challenged me to consider the long-term consequences of being embarrassed (really, who cares?). It reminded me that failing to act almost always leaves me with more regret than taking embarrassing action.
Here are a few instances where the Universal Question might help a person break through imprisoning inhibitions:
"If I say what I really think, people might disagree with me."
So?
"If I leave my drunken abusive husband, his crazy family will call me a bitch."
So?
"If I go windsurfing, I'll look like a klutz. Plus, people will see my cellulite."
So?
PS: I would just like to add that for some people, seeing this might be like staring at one of those anti-drug ads that say "Just say NO", or those on how to lose weight that say "Just stop eating it"! Those kind of statements do discourage me because there are really no legit excuses to counter them and really no space to accept ones humanity. But for people I see that are sick of being shy because of their condemning consciences or bad past experiences, that passage can be an inspiration for all of us.