Im falling help!!

once you start going down hill how to you get back??. I feel worse and worse every day. I used to smile and laugh all the time never been any good socialy or making friends but I could still have some fun at uni at times. I feel so bad and cant even look people in the eye any more i feel so cut off how can i make it better?

I love my course what im doing but i cant handel people and not having friends. Should i give up and go home?

I just dont know anymore im so confused

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college is a really hard place to be with SA, especially if you are trying to make friends. everyone, including non-SA people find it really difficult to find those people that they can have fun with.

first things first, don't hole yourself up in your room. get involved. even if you're just walking around campus. change your environment if you feel yourself getting depressed. no matter how bad the day seems, go outside and walk around!! get a new setting! i promise it makes all the difference.

also, try talking to people in your classes, are you in your major classes yet? you're probably more likily to find people like you in those than the general education classes.

good luck and take a break, maybe go home for a little bit, then come back and start anew. it's tough, i deal with it everyday! you're not alone. but you'll make it.

I have had days like that too. One thing I would suggest is to try something new in your daily routine. I have a tendency to fall into very specific and similar rountines every day. When I do this I almost "get too comfortable" and withdraw into myself even more, and then that makes it more difficult to respond to people and be a little bit outgoing when I have to be.

So even if it is something small like watching a movie alone and going to bed a few hours later than usual, that may renew your resolve to face things so you don't feel like you are covering the same ground continuosly and not gaining anything.

I would say definitely don't quit school because then you are letting SA control the really big aspects of you life and the path of you life, not just how you feel inside.

I really don't think you should quit. Avoidance (I'm learning) is suppose to aggravate SA and make it much worse in the long run. You'd loose out on the course you love, and be making it that much harder to get over your problem.

I know how you feel, and I honestly don't know the solution, but your not going to find it running in the opposite direction.

quiting is not the solution. you have to keep pushing yourself. if you truly want to get past sa.

i know what it's like to keep on falling. i've spent years falling. and everytime i keep thinking i'm gonna get back up. i get knocked down. but i still keep on trying. Things may seem rough. But with the good you have to take the bad. And everything truly happens for a reason. Just don't waste those lessons. Learn from them.

You are definitely not alone. I would strongly urge you to stay. Imagine what your life will be like if you quit. Will you really feel better?

Most universities offer free or cheap counseling services. It would be helpful to talk to someone like that. They are very familiar with issues college students face, and SA certainly isn't rare.