I found someone new I really like

I met him on Myspace. He asked me to go to a concert last night(which was great BTW--- God Forbid, Goatwhore, Mnemic, Arsis & Human Abstract. Goatwhore was my favorite--the vocalist even came out and was selling their merchandise, I bought a hoodie from him! ) and I really like him. I kept wanting to kiss him or something last night but I was too scared. And we had to spend the night in a motel together last night since we live so far from the concert. So today when he brought me back home I had decided I was going to kiss him anyway. And I did, and he seemed to like that I did. Later on I asked him if that was ok with him and everything, and if he didn't want me to do it again to just tell me but that I really like him, and he responded saying he wanted to kiss me last night but he wasn't sure how I'd feel about that, so that made me happy. Because it was the same for me. I just hope he wasn't saying it to keep from hurting my feelings or something. I worry about these things too much. 8O But it's not often I find someone I like this much and when I do, they don't ever stick around long so I'm afraid he won't want to see me again.
Though he has already asked me to go to another concert with him. 8)

Thats great! I'm really happy for you!

awesome LittleMissScareAll! sounds promising..and good for you for kissing him first :wink:

Thanks...well I'm gonna try not to get too excited about it yet though. Every time I find somebody I like they never stick around long
I'm REALLY hoping it's different this time though.

thanks, I hope so too but I guess it's best not to expect anything too much

Congratulations little miss scare all :wink:

You did it. I'm surprisedyou kissed him first. But that was crucial, as you saw for yourself. Of course, being invited to another concert is a sign that she likes you...cause he wouldn't bother if he didn't felt anything for you.

But you have to be precaucious. Try not to invest too much feelings in this relashionship before u know the guy well, who knows, maybe all he wants is sex, cause you are a very attractive woman, as I saw from your photos.

Take care and good luck, hope it turns out good for you in the long run.

Thanks...I don't think he really likes me all that much though.
Why do guys have to be so damn confusing? I'm making it obvious that I like him but I have no idea whether he feels the same way or not cause some things he says makes me think he does, but then he hasn't talked to me much lately...which I found out he's been sick, but still, he doesn't seem as interested or something. I probably messed up somewhere last weekend. Why not? I always mess everything up. :x

LittleMissScareAll said:

Thanks...I don't think he really likes me all that much though.
Why do guys have to be so damn confusing? I'm making it obvious that I like him but I have no idea whether he feels the same way or not cause some things he says makes me think he does, but then he hasn't talked to me much lately...which I found out he's been sick, but still, he doesn't seem as interested or something. I probably messed up somewhere last weekend. Why not? I always mess everything up. :x

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Alright lets look at this objectively...from what information I have. You and him went to a concert together and both had a great time. You kissed and both liked it...he was shy about it. He asked you to another concert. He didn't talk to you when he was sick.

Alright....if he didn't like what happened at the first concert he wouldn't invite you to another so we know for sure he likes going to concerts with you. Has he kissed you since? Have you kissed him since? When your sick do you want to be talking to people all the time? As a guy I like to shut out the world and be alone when I'm sick and he might be the same way. The test to see if he likes you or not is how close he wants to be with you. That means talking and how often and being physically close to you. If he keeps you tight by his side then he likes you if he doesn't then he doesn't. This may not always work perfectly because some people act in different ways but its a good rule of thumb

I dunno about that....he'd kinda already asked me to go to that other concert with him, before we even met.....and he could, at any time, find somebody else to go instead of me. He hasn't mentioned it lately, and he hasn't really talked to me much at all lately.
No, I haven't seen him since then. If I had I would have kissed him alot more. We live about an hour from each other...and if he invited me and I knew where he lived I would go see him, but since he hasn't, I just ask him to come see me.
When I'm sick, I still come on the internet. I probably wouldn't feel like talking on the phone if I were sick but online, I still talk. I had surgery once and still got online as soon as I got home from the hospital.
I was walking like a sumo wrestler(that's what my mom said anyway :lol: ) and I still managed to get on the computer.
Well judging from what you said, he doesn't like me then, cause he doesn't talk to me much anymore. And I asked him to come see me this weekend and he never really gave me an answer...he just said "maybe", but of course, he didn't end up coming.

Thelema said:

Alright lets look at this objectively...from what information I have. You and him went to a concert together and both had a great time. You kissed and both liked it...he was shy about it. He asked you to another concert. He didn't talk to you when he was sick.

Alright....if he didn't like what happened at the first concert he wouldn't invite you to another so we know for sure he likes going to concerts with you. Has he kissed you since? Have you kissed him since? When your sick do you want to be talking to people all the time? As a guy I like to shut out the world and be alone when I'm sick and he might be the same way. The test to see if he likes you or not is how close he wants to be with you. That means talking and how often and being physically close to you. If he keeps you tight by his side then he likes you if he doesn't then he doesn't. This may not always work perfectly because some people act in different ways but its a good rule of thumb

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LittleMissScareAll said:

I dunno about that....he'd kinda already asked me to go to that other concert with him, before we even met.....and he could, at any time, find somebody else to go instead of me. He hasn't mentioned it lately, and he hasn't really talked to me much at all lately.
No, I haven't seen him since then. If I had I would have kissed him alot more. We live about an hour from each other...and if he invited me and I knew where he lived I would go see him, but since he hasn't, I just ask him to come see me.
When I'm sick, I still come on the internet. I probably wouldn't feel like talking on the phone if I were sick but online, I still talk. I had surgery once and still got online as soon as I got home from the hospital.
I was walking like a sumo wrestler(that's what my mom said anyway :lol: ) and I still managed to get on the computer.
Well judging from what you said, he doesn't like me then, cause he doesn't talk to me much anymore. And I asked him to come see me this weekend and he never really gave me an answer...he just said "maybe", but of course, he didn't end up coming.

Thelema said:

Alright lets look at this objectively...from what information I have. You and him went to a concert together and both had a great time. You kissed and both liked it...he was shy about it. He asked you to another concert. He didn't talk to you when he was sick.

Alright....if he didn't like what happened at the first concert he wouldn't invite you to another so we know for sure he likes going to concerts with you. Has he kissed you since? Have you kissed him since? When your sick do you want to be talking to people all the time? As a guy I like to shut out the world and be alone when I'm sick and he might be the same way. The test to see if he likes you or not is how close he wants to be with you. That means talking and how often and being physically close to you. If he keeps you tight by his side then he likes you if he doesn't then he doesn't. This may not always work perfectly because some people act in different ways but its a good rule of thumb

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I'm sorry to say but the truth is it sounds like he isn't that in to you. Not knowing where he lives seems a little strange to me. I mean look at it...He can come and see you when ever he wants but you can't come see him when you want. That doesn't sound like the best deal to me. Sounds like he has all the power in the relationship. If I were you I would stop being open to him. Don't talk to him for a couple weeks and see if he starts talking to you wondering where you went all of the sudden. If there was anything there then it will only grow when you are gone and he has to constantly wonder what happened to you. The last thing you want is a guy that will string you along tho. Being interested just enough to keep your hopes up and just end up using you. I would keep looking for another guy and don't get hung up about this one person. I had that happen to me but it was a phone call instead of coming over...fucking worst feeling in the world. Something I've found that helps is to stop jumping to conclusions. Even if he is screwing you over there is no reason to think about it and bla bla...just makes it hurt worse.

Yeah it's pretty obvious now...and there is no "relationship", I mean he's not my boyfriend. I just WISH he was. For now he's just a guy who asked me to go to a concert with him and hasn't talked to me much since.
He still has me in his top list on myspace though...not that that means anything really. I put up a new picture trying to get his attention but so far I've just gotten attention from everybody else but him. :?
Ah, I do talk to other guys but I don't like any of them as much as I do this guy...

Thelema said:

I'm sorry to say but the truth is it sounds like he isn't that in to you. Not knowing where he lives seems a little strange to me. I mean look at it...He can come and see you when ever he wants but you can't come see him when you want. That doesn't sound like the best deal to me. Sounds like he has all the power in the relationship. If I were you I would stop being open to him. Don't talk to him for a couple weeks and see if he starts talking to you wondering where you went all of the sudden. If there was anything there then it will only grow when you are gone and he has to constantly wonder what happened to you. The last thing you want is a guy that will string you along tho. Being interested just enough to keep your hopes up and just end up using you. I would keep looking for another guy and don't get hung up about this one person. I had that happen to me but it was a phone call instead of coming over...fucking worst feeling in the world. Something I've found that helps is to stop jumping to conclusions. Even if he is screwing you over there is no reason to think about it and bla bla...just makes it hurt worse.

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LittleMissScareAll said:

Yeah it's pretty obvious now...and there is no "relationship", I mean he's not my boyfriend. I just WISH he was. For now he's just a guy who asked me to go to a concert with him and hasn't talked to me much since.
He still has me in his top list on myspace though...not that that means anything really. I put up a new picture trying to get his attention but so far I've just gotten attention from everybody else but him. :?
Ah, I do talk to other guys but I don't like any of them as much as I do this guy...

Thelema said:

I'm sorry to say but the truth is it sounds like he isn't that in to you. Not knowing where he lives seems a little strange to me. I mean look at it...He can come and see you when ever he wants but you can't come see him when you want. That doesn't sound like the best deal to me. Sounds like he has all the power in the relationship. If I were you I would stop being open to him. Don't talk to him for a couple weeks and see if he starts talking to you wondering where you went all of the sudden. If there was anything there then it will only grow when you are gone and he has to constantly wonder what happened to you. The last thing you want is a guy that will string you along tho. Being interested just enough to keep your hopes up and just end up using you. I would keep looking for another guy and don't get hung up about this one person. I had that happen to me but it was a phone call instead of coming over...fucking worst feeling in the world. Something I've found that helps is to stop jumping to conclusions. Even if he is screwing you over there is no reason to think about it and bla bla...just makes it hurt worse.

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You could use it as a learning experience. He saw something he liked in you at first. You keep saying guys keep leaving you and you can use all that experience to learn what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong. I've learned some girls are attracted to me because I can be a real smart ass but they know I'm really sweet too. Find what has been working for you and run with it. Maybe they see a cute mysterious girl or whatever it is use it to your advantage. I've done the picture thing too :lol: I put up a picture she said she liked...got nothing either...You could always take a picture of you and a cute guy friend of yours and put it up :twisted:

NEVERMIND MY LAST MESSAGE! Obviously my picture worked. Either that or he just got to feeling alot better(well which he did say he is feeling better now). Either way, I'm SOOO HAPPY right now. He talked to me tonight, he's supposed to be calling me tomorrow and he wants to come and stay with me for a few days or for me to come stay with him for a few days! Wow. Good things don't happen to me often, but as of right now I'm getting what I want. I just hope something doesn't screw it up! I hope I don't screw it up! And I hope I'm not dreaming right now cause I feel like I am.

Thelema said:

You could use it as a learning experience. He saw something he liked in you at first. You keep saying guys keep leaving you and you can use all that experience to learn what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong. I've learned some girls are attracted to me because I can be a real smart ass but they know I'm really sweet too. Find what has been working for you and run with it. Maybe they see a cute mysterious girl or whatever it is use it to your advantage. I've done the picture thing too :lol: I put up a picture she said she liked...got nothing either...You could always take a picture of you and a cute guy friend of yours and put it up :twisted:

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LittleMissScareAll said:

NEVERMIND MY LAST MESSAGE! Obviously my picture worked. Either that or he just got to feeling alot better(well which he did say he is feeling better now). Either way, I'm SOOO HAPPY right now. He talked to me tonight, he's supposed to be calling me tomorrow and he wants to come and stay with me for a few days or for me to come stay with him for a few days! Wow. Good things don't happen to me often, but as of right now I'm getting what I want. I just hope something doesn't screw it up! I hope I don't screw it up! And I hope I'm not dreaming right now cause I feel like I am.

Thelema said:

You could use it as a learning experience. He saw something he liked in you at first. You keep saying guys keep leaving you and you can use all that experience to learn what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong. I've learned some girls are attracted to me because I can be a real smart ass but they know I'm really sweet too. Find what has been working for you and run with it. Maybe they see a cute mysterious girl or whatever it is use it to your advantage. I've done the picture thing too :lol: I put up a picture she said she liked...got nothing either...You could always take a picture of you and a cute guy friend of yours and put it up :twisted:

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Go for it 8) Good luck!

Thank you!! I just hope nothing changes his mind before then and that he doesn't get tired of being around me. 8O
I know I worry too much, but I can't help it...gonna try not to think about bad stuff right now though...I think it is obvious he likes me now, he basically told me that tonight. And I guess that's all that matters...maybe if I don't worry bad things won't happen. I hope 8O

Thelema said:

Go for it 8) Good luck!

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