xtina_fan81
Well-known member
i can't start coming out of my shell with people who already see me as "quiet"!
i find that if i'm with someone i know im going to be spending quite alot of time with...e.g people in a new class or something, i freeze up and cant socialize, and then they class me as the "quiet one".once im under that label, it becomes 10000000 times harder to come out of it, and that makes me even more self-conscious. for example, i might actually have something to say ina conversation one day and want to contribute in some way, but because i KNOW that they have already made their judgment and think im quiet and thats it..i cant.because if i do speak up after a while people wil always make a big thing of it, instead of treating you like everyone else and responding to what you;re saying. they say things like "omg you spoke" like thats really gonna make me wanna talk again if thats all the response i get???
I feel like if im gonna be accepted like evryone else and treated the same..i need to be loauder and more talkative the FIRST time i meet them, otherwise i have a label on myself, its like bars that come down around me as soon as people see me as that and i just cant get OUT of them. i cant break free. so i guess i need to learn how to be more outgoing on the first instance.
i find that if i'm with someone i know im going to be spending quite alot of time with...e.g people in a new class or something, i freeze up and cant socialize, and then they class me as the "quiet one".once im under that label, it becomes 10000000 times harder to come out of it, and that makes me even more self-conscious. for example, i might actually have something to say ina conversation one day and want to contribute in some way, but because i KNOW that they have already made their judgment and think im quiet and thats it..i cant.because if i do speak up after a while people wil always make a big thing of it, instead of treating you like everyone else and responding to what you;re saying. they say things like "omg you spoke" like thats really gonna make me wanna talk again if thats all the response i get???
I feel like if im gonna be accepted like evryone else and treated the same..i need to be loauder and more talkative the FIRST time i meet them, otherwise i have a label on myself, its like bars that come down around me as soon as people see me as that and i just cant get OUT of them. i cant break free. so i guess i need to learn how to be more outgoing on the first instance.