Hocd HELP

Hocd or homesexual ocd where u obsess over that u might be gay or or bi has been killing me. I have these thoughts all the time and cant stop them. I never had them before. Im 19 yr old male btw. How do yo beat this type of ocd anybody know?

hey g-money

I definetly know what youre going thru!
I have had all kinds of ocd, the one you are talking of and its living hell
Also have had pocd when i was workin at kindergarden. It sucks, i realy does.. These I feel are the worst kind of ocds...

So you know ure not alone.. I know alot about it, I have had it for such a long time, i know how it messes up youre life.. It makes your interests in what u like nearly disapear. You start to questioning who u are and stuff, but thats the OCD way. It hits youre fears Best thing is just to breathe deep.. Its hard though when you are so anxious, but TRY!!

Best of luck

Try deep breaths and try to think of good things, The breathing actualy makes it better, sit down in a comfortable chair and just try it for awhile, it actually brings you joy, its weird.. When you are really destressed, take a couple of deep breaths, and good memorys and good thoughts will pop up

I also gotta say that Im a 23 y old male so I really know what you go thru!
Gotta say that DONT FIGHT the ocd, it feeds on you fear... I had panic attack yesterday just cause i tried to fight it, when I started breathing REALLY deep it went away.. Ive always kind of felt strangled while it happened before

I know exactly what your going through. I'm a 19 year old male as well. It has made me question who I am. I've had it for like 2 years now. When I first got it, I was like WTF? I have ALWAYS been attracted to females. ALWAYS.

I thougth that I was the only one with this "condition." I did some research online and found out this contion known as HOCD. I thought I knew who I was, but HOCD makes you rethink everything. It pisses me off so much. I've read lots of articles on it, and the best thing to do is not let it bother you. Agree with the thoughts. And accept them as just thoughts. This has made it a little easier on me, but I know I have a long way to go. This will probably be with me for the rest of my life so I'll just have to get use to it.

I just want you to know that you aren't alone and wish you good luck to fighting this shit man. We can't let it ruin our lives.

i have ocd and i could have hocd but im not entirely sure. i have bisexual thoughts a lot, but ive gotten to the point where i accept them and i think i might be bi. i feel as if i'd be ok with living that way but sometimes when i get to thinking about it i wonder if i really am that way or is it just that the thoughts in my head are really another obsession related to my ocd. but also i wonder sometimes if these thoughts in my head are occuring because i am bi but i only think they are associated with my ocd becuase being bi isnt the social norm so its hard to accept at first. so i can relate to what you're saying and i agree that you shouldnt fight the ocd. either these thoughts represent who you are and you really are gay or bi, there's nothing wrong with that, but if they dont represent who you are then i would say to accept them as much as you can. if you do that then they will eventually fade...

Hi everyone. Yes I suffer from HOCD. I have been strait all my life (i'm a girl bythe way) and have had numerous boyfriends. I've never been attracted to to the same sex and have never thought about it until I started college. I play college soccer and about half my teammates are lesbian. I've never had a problem with gay/lesbian people and it never bothered me until one tiny thought consumed my mind. As I felt like all these strait girls were turning lesbians I asked myself the question of "Wonder If I'm gay and i just don't know it?" Lord, I wish i never thought that because now it doesn't go away. It just sticks with me and sometimes I have breakdowns where I just sit and cry. I know I'm not lesbian, and the thing is i have aboyfriend that I love sooo much and I want to tell him about HOCD and i tried talking to him about this once but he became defensive and assumed that i was actually lesbian! Of course i told him i wasn't and we haven't talked about it since. I thought something was seriously wrong with me until tonight when i figured out about HOCD, and all of the symtoms matched mine...EXACTLY. I feel so relieved though because ic ouldn't tell anyone and i felt i was going insane. Seriously. I didn't want to go anywhere or do anything and i can't even be myself around my boyfriend. I had this problem for about four days once and somehow told myself to get over it but now it's back, and it's been back for about 2 weeks. I hate HOCD! But we must fight it and believe in who we are. peace love,
M