having trousble thinking of things to say

I feel like I have a lot of trouble getting to know people because I can't think of things to say to them. LIke, Most of what I say and ask people is informative, as in giving people information. I feel like my friends who have less trouble with conversations have more free flowing conversations, mine are like really logical. My conversations aren't always that way, but with a lot of people they are. Any suggestions on how to improve my conversation skills?

I struggle with the same thing. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about or don't know what to talk about around people I don't know. Sometimes I even feel this way around people I do know.

But it's just a matter of asking about them. Just ask them about their job, if they know someone you know ask them how they know them, or just bring up current events. I know it's easier said than done. I think the main reason why I don't do this is because I'm afraid the other person is gonna think I'm being too personal or almost like I'm interviewing them if I ask them a bunch of questions. But I've determined that I'm just not going to think that way anymore.

Yes, I found myself in this place at one time.

What worked for me was to keep trying and keep finding different relevant topics to talk about.

The main thing is really teaching yourself to relax. Once you learn to relax, conversation becomes more flowing and natural, as you said. In order to do that, I engaged in regular exercise, ate a healthy diet, saw a counselor (very beneficial), have taken some medication, and I talk to friends that are supportive people, not negative ones.

So, hang in there and keep working on your relaxation. You have important and useful things to say!

I used to have the same problem, but its not easy to be spontaneous and at the same time analyse what others think and feel and that is what people with SP usually do. I get out of it when I let myself to be myself so I become quiet in this situations which I believe sounds better than forced and artificial conversation. When you truly accept yourself in this situations it wont bother you any more and your conversations will start flowing naturally. Anyway that worked for me and I don’t have that problem any more. Generally I believe people feel better around someone quiet and natural than talkative and artificial.

I find that if you stop trying to think of things to say and just concentrate on what's going on you'll find yourself making comments and talking without even realizing it.

My advice: Don't overthink, don't even think. Just go with the flow and you'll be fine..

I always have this problem too, and it drives me nuts half of the time.

I have the same problem and it's really frustrating, even when I try to come up with some small talk about the weather or some other current event I blank out and fail miserably. Then the conversation ends in an awkward silence. Occasionally, I might have a decent conversation with someone if they're the only person near me, although then I still sort of stutter a bit and get stuck out of nervousness or I dunno what and it makes me feel like a fool.

That is the main problem I've been having when talking to other people!
It always feels easier for me to talk to adults and teachers because they are usually asking questions that are easily responded to with a logical extension of the question itself. If I do get into a full-fledged conversation with an adult (I'm 17 right now), I usually ask questions that are, again, logical extensions of my surroundings (e.g. Doesn't Sting play this song?) or of thoughts that I conjure up based on a logical and sequential examination of recent events in my life (e.g. Have you ever driven through the wind tunnel in the city?). Commentary I make is logical (That kind of engine actually works by drawing in and compressing air and gas) and so is advice (Yes, well it was likely that he was only feeling concern for your well-being, not anger). Everything I say is so freaking logical! It makes me sick. Yet every time I put any emotion into my voice, I feel like it's fake, or like it's not really me, though I suspect that this is because of some distortion in my thinking. I constantly analyze everything going on around me. I feel like I can't remember what it felt like to just be, and then I'll get confused because it seems like some people that are social and happy analyze things and are intellectual. I don't remember where the boundary and balance between thinking and being lies, and don't know how to re-establish it because everything I do is done within my faulty logical mind frame.

Is the problem here a lack of social skills? Because every time I immerse myself in a social situation, I feel like I am developing social skills, but really the skills I'm developing are just my logical skills. There is no spontaneity in my conversations. Even when I try to talk to people like they seem to talk to each other, my words come out sounding fake and clumsy, like I am just another forced and unsuccessful imitator of what people would call "popular" language.

Of course, most of the time, I don't even talk to people anyway, since if they don't start the conversation and keep responding to the things I say, our conversation just draws to an awkward close...