Has anyone ever helped you?
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Hoth
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Sorry you've had those experiences, but if you become what you hate then you're no better. Most of the bullies and people who screw you over do it because they've had it done to them by others and aren't good enough people to break the cycle... it's a shame you're just another one of them.
My experiences have been the opposite. A lot of people tried to help me, but I'm impervious to all that. In school, a few people went to great lengths to try to be my friend but I just wouldn't talk to them. Teachers were always concerned. Teachers forced me to log time with the elementary school counselor, who wanted to help me. Even through college, there were people taking an interest in me ready to help me out if I ever wanted. My family has always wanted to help too.
Of course life isn't perfect, there were a few bullies and I've never gotten along with my sister. Overall, though, I think I've had more than my fair share of chances and have simply been afraid to take any of them.
My experiences have been the opposite. A lot of people tried to help me, but I'm impervious to all that. In school, a few people went to great lengths to try to be my friend but I just wouldn't talk to them. Teachers were always concerned. Teachers forced me to log time with the elementary school counselor, who wanted to help me. Even through college, there were people taking an interest in me ready to help me out if I ever wanted. My family has always wanted to help too.
Of course life isn't perfect, there were a few bullies and I've never gotten along with my sister. Overall, though, I think I've had more than my fair share of chances and have simply been afraid to take any of them.
Andrew
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I am fully aware that I have become one of them. I am fully aware of the cycle of bullying. Why does somebody have to be better? I have no desire to be the 'better' person. Life isn't a game to see who can get into heaven. I have already said I no longer have any desire to contribute positively to the world, so the idea of being a 'better' person makes no sense.Hoth said:
You are lucky. Don't use your lucky situation to try and take a moral stance against those who were not lucky.
getbornagain
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I used to blame others for my problems. One thing I've learned over time is that you are responsible for your own problems. SA is a product of you and me, it's all in our heads. If you don't let the world walk all over you it won't. Our problem is that we let the world bend us over daily.
Andrew
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It is not like that. It is not like I have particular people in mind and my life is about seeing them suffer. I don't hold any grudges. I do not even believe in free will. I don't believe anybody is responsible for what they do.Riiya said:
It is really just a personal choice to be an asshole. It is the way I deal with 28 years of being treated like crap.
Andrew
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How am I responsible for people abusing me at school? For people ignoring my problems? For family members trivialising my problems and making me feel guilty? I am not.getbornagain said:
I am not saying they caused my SA either. Nobody caused my SA, it is how people have dealt with me as a person.
Walk
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I think a common misconception is that people are against you.
Not necessarily.
It's more like, most people don't really care. Which is a lot better than them wanting to hurt you intentionally. But yeah, still sucks that they're so apathetic.
The best thing to do is to keep a positive demeanor and seek out the good people in life who are more caring. It's all I can do. If I obsess over how bad people can be, it can consume me and stress me out. Fuck that, i'm fed up with stress.
You're either my friend or you're not my friend. Simple as that. Not necessarily my enemy by the way; that's bad thinking. Too negative.
Not necessarily.
It's more like, most people don't really care. Which is a lot better than them wanting to hurt you intentionally. But yeah, still sucks that they're so apathetic.
The best thing to do is to keep a positive demeanor and seek out the good people in life who are more caring. It's all I can do. If I obsess over how bad people can be, it can consume me and stress me out. Fuck that, i'm fed up with stress.
You're either my friend or you're not my friend. Simple as that. Not necessarily my enemy by the way; that's bad thinking. Too negative.
sabbath92003
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Hell, even rats are better than people, and I hate rats
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