Feeling proud of yourself (or not)

If you manage to face something that causes you a lot of anxiety and you get through it, do you feel proud of yourself? I've just realised I never do. I'm in my first year of uni living in halls and most people are trying to move out to houses next year with friends. I don't have any friends to get a house with but there are a few "Housemates Wanted" notices posted around the university. I actually managed to reply to one today. I got a phone number off one of the notices and called some random girl I've never met to arrange a meeting. I hate phones and I am terrified of phoning anyone but my parents. I eventually called this girl though and it was fine and I don't think I said or did anything wrong. I feel like I should be proud of myself but I just feel terrible and I don't know why. I thought about it and realised I'm never proud of myself when I face my fears, I just feel bad. Do you get that or is it just me?

Yeah i can relate to what your saying,im currently doing therapy in which i basicaly have to force myself to face the things im scared to do sort of thing.And i do.. i force myself to do things i hate,sometimes i do get all flustered and feel like ive cocked it up cos i blushed or whatever lol,but sometimes i face my fear and do well, but i never feel like ive done somthing to be proud of or see it as ive done somthing posative.I kinda have the mindset that i use to be able to do it and should be able to do it anyway so i dont feel posative about it,if that makes sence?

I think thats why exposure on its own just doesnt work unless you back it up and try and get out of the negative thinking style.So yeah its not just you at all,and a hope this house works out for you

yeah... i'm convinced that doing enough terrifying things can cure you. it's a form of desensitization. and for me that's a good thing, since i just started a really socially-oriented job where everyday so far i've been meeting a ton of new people. weird thing is though... i feel desensitized to the outside world more and more but i still feel like i don't like the person i am inside, even though everyone else sees me as a pretty decent guy.

so maybe this whole conflict is still an inner-self thing. who the hell knows