myheartisastone
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I rarely talk about my feelings with anyone in my family. Usually its my sister.
However when I was visiting my father this week (he's ill and doesn't know/is too lazy to take proper care of himself so I have to make routine visits - plus he's widowed and no one else is there to do it), he noticed I was not talking to him and became rather angry with me because he noticed I was upset and not in a good mood. He started yelling at me telling me I was "crazy" and "mentally ill" that there was something wrong with me because I mentioned I was depressed. He didn't seem to care much, he was pretty much only interested in hurting me and arguing with me. Which is why I don't talk to him about anything, really.
He makes me not want to be around him. Why would I want to be? he makes my anxiety much, much worse.
Among the "So is everyone else, yadda yadda" that he always does, he also blamed it on my period (as if he knows my cycle and as if you know, because i'm female, you can't be pissed without being on your period, insert sexist bs here)
Of course, he always whines about his problems, never seems to ask or care about when someone else needs anything. Constantly goes on about his failed relationships ... he has a habit of dating idiotic women who treat him badly, and expects everyone to care and listen to him, but won't take the time to listen to anyone else.
It's basically him, all the time. Talking to him about your problems is like talking to a dog and expecting him to respond in several different languages
Also, my father is pretty verbally and emotionally abusive, and although he's elderly he acts like he's 5. It's actually always been that as a kid I felt like I was the parent and he was kind of the kid, only with slightly more authority and power. He doesn't really act like a father ... he's never been there for me in that way.
It doesn't help me to feel better or less alone when I have a so called parent like this ...
i'd just like to know if anyone can relate to this.
However when I was visiting my father this week (he's ill and doesn't know/is too lazy to take proper care of himself so I have to make routine visits - plus he's widowed and no one else is there to do it), he noticed I was not talking to him and became rather angry with me because he noticed I was upset and not in a good mood. He started yelling at me telling me I was "crazy" and "mentally ill" that there was something wrong with me because I mentioned I was depressed. He didn't seem to care much, he was pretty much only interested in hurting me and arguing with me. Which is why I don't talk to him about anything, really.
He makes me not want to be around him. Why would I want to be? he makes my anxiety much, much worse.
Among the "So is everyone else, yadda yadda" that he always does, he also blamed it on my period (as if he knows my cycle and as if you know, because i'm female, you can't be pissed without being on your period, insert sexist bs here)
Of course, he always whines about his problems, never seems to ask or care about when someone else needs anything. Constantly goes on about his failed relationships ... he has a habit of dating idiotic women who treat him badly, and expects everyone to care and listen to him, but won't take the time to listen to anyone else.
It's basically him, all the time. Talking to him about your problems is like talking to a dog and expecting him to respond in several different languages
Also, my father is pretty verbally and emotionally abusive, and although he's elderly he acts like he's 5. It's actually always been that as a kid I felt like I was the parent and he was kind of the kid, only with slightly more authority and power. He doesn't really act like a father ... he's never been there for me in that way.
It doesn't help me to feel better or less alone when I have a so called parent like this ...
i'd just like to know if anyone can relate to this.
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