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Hello I am new here. I have had social anxiety all my life and have made some progress, but am really frustrated because I am still horrible at making conversation with new people, especially in groups. I am not sure if am still feeling self conscious or if I just never learned how, but I don't seem to know how or feel comfortable jumping into conversations. Anybody else have this problem and/or any suggestions?

I suck at this stuff too. Some times, when I do start a conversation, there are these really long, awkward pauses because I don't know what else to say and I get scared.

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I suck at this stuff too. Some times, when I do start a conversation, there are these really long, awkward pauses because I don't know what else to say and I get scared.

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ugh. Those damn awkward silences have ruined nearly all of my conversations with people. I just can't really think of anything to say when it happens, and I just end up standing there awkwardly staring at the ground...

It's even worse when the other person just gives you a blank stare, then walks away from you without even saying anything. Almost like they think you're not worthy of talking to them or something.

I think most people with SA aren't very good at conversing with others. For me my mind either goes blank or comes up with the most ridiculous things to say. Either way I end up feeling like an idiot. I think it is because I am such a different person when I talk to somebody I am comfortable with. When I am in front of other people I feel like a have to be somebody else and have nothing to say. I don't know maybe it's the same for you. I suggest maybe using chatrooms (by the way this website has a chatroom) to get comfortable talking to people and making conversation.

Good Luck

Yep I know exactly what the problem is. Anxiety. Its no suprise that most shy people can't make conversation. You aren't a retard if that's what you were thinking lol The more relaxed you are the more it flows and that comes with desensitisation.

For me most of the time I have stuff to say but am just to nervous. When im ultra nervous i just go blank and cant think about anything but how nervous i am. Its really friggen frustrating coz i dunno why im like this im really the opposite of shy.

Yes, i get that too, i don't like jumping into a conversation because it means all attention is on you and if you kinda cock up then they are all staring at you and then they'll look at each other and there'll be ackward silences or laughter.