Foxglove
Well-known member
I have always had the habit of comparing myself to other people (women). And 99% of the time I come up short. When I am at home and look in the mirror, I don't think I look so bad, and sometimes, not often, I even think I look pretty good. But the minute I have to go somewhere in public, especially places like shopping malls, I immediately feel like a troll. I think that people are looking me up and down, and smirking at me. Women here in Germany are obsessed with clothes and shoes and everything is based on how good you look. I'm a jeans, T-shirt and tennis shoes type of woman, which seems to be an absolute rarity here. I was forced yesterday to go to a mall with my son to buy shoes for him, and I felt so anxious and paranoid, and then after visiting 10 different shoe stores still didn't find any shoes, I was absolutely kaputt. After I got home, I locked myself in the bathroom and cut myself with a razor blade, which is what I do when I feel angry at my failures and incompetence.
I feel like I am incapable of doing things or being the way women are supposed to do or be. I hate shopping, I'm not a fashion junkie, I don't like to talk on the phone, I hate gossip, I hate having to deal with my son't teacher and his friend's mothers. All the things I should be able to do, I just can't. I'm so sick and tired of feeling like a failure, or like a freak. I wish every day that I would just drop dead.
Is anyone else here in the habit of comparing themselves constantly with others? I wish I could stop doing it, or feeling that I must do it. It does nothing but make life a living hell.
I feel like I am incapable of doing things or being the way women are supposed to do or be. I hate shopping, I'm not a fashion junkie, I don't like to talk on the phone, I hate gossip, I hate having to deal with my son't teacher and his friend's mothers. All the things I should be able to do, I just can't. I'm so sick and tired of feeling like a failure, or like a freak. I wish every day that I would just drop dead.
Is anyone else here in the habit of comparing themselves constantly with others? I wish I could stop doing it, or feeling that I must do it. It does nothing but make life a living hell.