Breakthrough experiments

Hey gang, merry christmas! I haven't been posting lately due to a huge breakthrough in the cure for my social anxiety. Curious as to what it is? As odd as it may sound, I've learned something very unique through having this so-called 'condition' we call SA - Acceptance and honesty are the direct counterparts. The more you strain and struggle, the worse off you'll be. Though that might just seem like a n-brainer, a lot of the time people forget just what it is that made them the way they are - the inability to accept, and sometimes even the incapacity for self-honesty. Most people don't make room for this way of thinking... but you can trust me when I tell you it's quite a wise investment

So kick back. It's christmas. Unwind. Give yourself a day off from SA - just accept it and have a good time regardless.

Cheers

Good point Infected_Malignity.

There's something similar in the Dr Richards CBT series. He talks about the ways in which we try and fight SP in detail, but he neatly sums it up in one sentence:

THAT WHICH YOU RESIST, PERSISTS

That is the first thing everybody tries when attempting to beat SA...

If what your saying is possible (just saying to yourself "fuck it" and have a good time) then I'm sure none of us would be here searching for the answer.


Peace

It's not as easy as it sounds, my friend. But it can be done. The best thing I probably ever came to realize is that all of us on planet earth are insecure in one way or another, believe it or not. Some overpower and become jerks, some people keep it under wraps and stay balanced for the most part, and others fall behind and start feeling worthless. Therefore, it's possible to just accept them and keep yourself afloat, and well balanced through it all. There's no way to completely eliminate these feelings, though. But through accepting and admitting these insecurities, you can keep them at bay and have an awesome time in life, regardless. That's what I believe anyway And as a matter of fact, the more accepting I become, the better I feel about everyday life... and this is coming from somebody who's truly been mentally fucked in the past

Hey if it helps, do it up.


Peace

SilentType said:

That is the first thing everybody tries when attempting to beat SA...

If what your saying is possible (just saying to yourself "fuck it" and have a good time) then I'm sure none of us would be here searching for the answer.


Peace

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Yeh it's definately not as easy as saying that. I've tried thaat approach for years and it never worked.

Acceptance can work because it can break the cycle. The more you beat yourself up after a social situation, the more you will be afraid next time. Because what we are actually afraid of is feeling like a failure. I dunno where the cycle started but that's the cycle i seem to be in now. If you stop beating yourself up altogether, theoretically it breaks the cycle.

If someone who was terrified or blushing was really able to say to himself, i don't care if i blush i accept myself whether i blush or not....they would blush, laugh, and pretty soon would stop blushing.