Being laughed At!!!

Timz said:

they will know they aint on their own even if there is ONLY one other person. A big part of my problem is that sometimes feeling that only you suffer this particular problem

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Yeah. Same here. I've been humiliated far too many times. I think that one on one, people don't really tend to try and humiliate the other person. But once there's a congregation or even three people, there's a good chance that some kind of wolf pack mentality sets in... "Hey... if I humiliate this poor fool in front of me, it'll make me appear to be 'in'. Maybe even show off how witty I am! Nah... it's nothing personal. He deserves it anyway for being different... No way, I will NEVER ever sink down to that level. I'm normal..."

According to some versions of Hell, the tormentors will get a taste of their very own medicine and will experience EXACTLY what the victims suffer... It's quite a scary thought, but I take some solace that if such is the case... those people who humiliate others for fun and profit will get what's coming to them.

sometimes I can go about and feel alright. Like i said I had been to this organic food store just before i went there. The people at this store are very friendly and make you feel good about yourself. Like for example when you chekout they will say hello, and I have a chat with some and a lugh and you feel good

I CANNOT look at myself in reflections as it makes me down. So say i am walking towards doors that are rfelctive --which it seems more and more are now--i HAVE to look at my feet, so it can mean almost bumping into the door, or someone coming out

IF i am in town where there are shop windows on either side of street, I have to look straight ahead so it is like being in a tunnel where you cant look left or right! Also a gauntlet, because you feel a threat of seeing yourself by mistake if you turn your head

So people in a way then become mirrors because they may stare, and...LAUGH, as i described and then your world comes crashing down

I am trying to learn guitar but that event keeps giving me flashbacks. So I have to keep stopping and going sleepy

It is like you are at the mercy of peoples whims. so IF people seem to respect you, not stare, lugh, or abuse you you can get some confidence, and then BOOM when this happens all that little bit of confidene just goes. before that happening i had felt SO full of energy, and then that drains you and you want to just go to sleep

So whats stopped me from seriously hurting someone?

I have contemplated it in my imagination, but you think that say you hurt one, you would have to hurt all the ones waiting to come out of the secnes and humilate you again----I would have a past of dead bodies...and most likely be typing this from a cell

If i had thumped the cashier I'd be done for assault, and also my 'mental illness' tag would add to me being seen as a 'paranoid schizophrenic' or some such
They thought they had power over me as people do when they put you down, but i used the power I had to snitch on them

And yes I have heard of NDEs when the people experience the most subtle hurts done to others, and how they actually FEEl what the other felt. I cant WAIT for it to happen to these two and all the others

Sorry that you had to go through this, Timz. The important thing to take away from this is that you were able to combat the situation in a thoughtful and courageous manner. Good job.

Recently, and on three separate occasions, I told a couple of people how i was really feeling when they asked me. Two of them laughed; The other said nothing but "oh". The first snickering offender said he was "sorry" that i wasn't "feeling too well" while chuckling to himself. The second said "oh, that's not too good, heh heh heh" after i told her i was "sick of everything". S_hit like this makes me feel like I'm living in a nightmare. I wish it was fiction...I'll manage though.

M1tCh said:

Sorry that you had to go through this, Timz. The important thing to take away from this is that you were able to combat the situation in a thoughtful and courageous manner. Good job.

Recently, and on three separate occasions, I told a couple of people how i was really feeling when they asked me. Two of them laughed; The other said nothing but "oh". The first snickering offender said he was "sorry" that i wasn't "feeling too well" while chuckling to himself. The second said "oh, that's not too good, heh heh heh" after i told her i was "sick of everything". S_hit like this makes me feel like I'm living in a nightmare. I wish it was fiction...I'll manage though.

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HI M1tCH, I am real sorry for that terrible insensitivity--it seems to be an epidemic. I think more and more people are losing their souls, their empathy and just exist in an ugly world of instant gratification!

Let me tell you whats happened since that abuse last saturday. Their manager got in touch today and offered her apology for their behaviour. She is going to give them a warning when they come to their job this Saturday!
I usually pay for petrol outside PRECISELY because of fear of such as this happening, but I have a good mind to go face to cae with them and see their reaction now, and then smile---like 'whose got the power NOW?!

I think that a big thing about bullying is that the bullies presume you will be too ashamed to tell anyone what they have been doing. After all it IS embarrassing to say to someone you have been laughed at----not cool. BUT I am glad I did because it brings all this out into the open. It is you say ing, listen, I respect MYSELF and I will not tolerate people laughing at me or abusing me in any way. That is being honest, and exposing what they want--which is power over you---that you will be too ashamed to mention what they are up to. So I encourage everyone reading this that if in a situation where you have to deal with people connected to an establishment from whom you receive abuse in any form---to report it IMMEDIATELY and shame THEM!

And why u think they laughed at u? There can be milions of other reasons why they laugh. just coz they were watching u entering gass station and laughing doesnt mean they laughed. Maybe some1 said something funny and they laughed when u entered. its normal reaction that ppl look at some1 who enters the room.

FinalSolution said:

And why u think they laughed at u? There can be milions of other reasons why they laugh. just coz they were watching u entering gass station and laughing doesnt mean they laughed. Maybe some1 said something funny and they laughed when u entered. its normal reaction that ppl look at some1 who enters the room.

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You have asked a very important question, and one I am used to. It is what I call a mindbender of a question. I have seen person centred counsellors who would say it. HOW do you know that such and such a situation that you thinght was bullying really was?

Well, take the kid being bullied. We have experience many of us that kids laugh at other kids dont we---maybe they think the other kid is too large, small, has red hair, is ...different and so they look and giggle, and say thing like 'look at his nose' or 'look at the way he walks' or 'ewww she's minging'

We MAY have even done it ourselves and so know the feeling of laughing at someone and the power it can have for bonding us with the main bully.

SOME people are called 'funny looking' and this means that how they are makes others laugh, and they become a joke object.

Is it so that your own savvy KNOWS when something aint right and somebody is laughing at you? Often you COULD get it wrong but why is it when you claim that this happened some people call YOU paranoid? I felt quite confident when I went in so its not as though i was expecting anything like that. But the scene felt WRONG--it wasn't LIKE walking in when someone has just been laughing at something else. It seemed aimed at me.

But my point it---kids do it, laugh at people in a bullying way, agreed? So adults can't?

Timz said:

HI M1tCH, I am real sorry for that terrible insensitivity--it seems to be an epidemic. I think more and more people are losing their souls, their empathy and just exist in an ugly world of instant gratification!

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Thanks, Timz.

I just wanted to follow up on the bit about 'souls', since i came across a theory recently which postulates that people aren't born with souls, but have to develop them over the course of their lifetime(s). Anyways, i found it interesting and wanted to share.