iamantisocial
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Ok here's the situation. I put them in point form for easier understanding. This is about the current relationships I have with the "family" I live under the same roof with.
Mom
- cannot last talking to her for 5 minutes. Very unstable relationship. She is a walking time bomb that might explode anytime. Though we live under the same roof, we barely talk. And that seldom time we do talk, 90% of the time, it ends up in a quarrel. I dont see her as a mom anymore but an "enemy".
Dad
- We can be buddies sometimes. I can actually last for 1 day around him without getting into an argument. We have different principles and views of the world. But we still have respect for one another. Though he can be an annoying asshole.
18 year old brother
- we're "friends". But he seems to be spendin more time with his girlfriend. We barely quarrel.
15 year old brother
- close to mom even if mom verbally abuses him. We barely talk to each other... but we're not "enemies".
10 year old brother
- neutral. since he's much much younger than me, we barely communicate.
Granny
- she knows how to act like a mother. She is "mother" for me. She cries at the thought of me getting the fuck out of the house.
So in other words, situation is complicated. Around mom, I feel an aura of fear and hatred... around everyone else, its fine. I wanna leave the house. I tried running away a few times but dad was always there to stop me from doin it. He always talked me out of it.
But tensions been rising high these past few weeks. Mom is just too much. I cannot stand her anymore. My patience is almost running out. There is a bigger chance of me getting the fuck out of the house and running away for good.
In the event of me running away, I have the following preparations (so far):
- I have about $2000 in savings. I help pay the bills in the house... but I made little sacrifices to make it reach that level in less than 6 months.
- gotten rid of ALOT of stuff I wont be needing. Clothes, documents... I arranged them in such a way so that it will only take me 30 minutes or less to pack up and leave. TWO BAGS. I'd be bringing TWO BAGS.
- Planning to get a laptop to store my important files and some mp3s and videos to keep me busy.
- got the phone numbers and addresses of emergency shelters near my area. I'd probably be staying at the shelter for at least a week (I have a job... so it wont take long before I get back on my feet. This is gonna be a temporary fall) before finding a room for rent or bachelors apartment somewhere I can settle down. I'd be paying around the same amount I'm paying now if ever I get a roomate or a bach apartment... this time no more bad mommy to make me feel bad.
- I also have the phone numbers of the government, the bank, drivers lisence, credit card, and police... so that it will be easier to notify them about a change of address. I plan to change my name to prevent them from tracking me down.
Though I still have second thoughts about the name changing part. Doing that might trigger more hatred in even my 18 year old brother... who I have good relations with. Probably at the time of my departure, mom would be demonizing me to my brothers. The two young ones might believe EVERY WORD she says... but the 18 year old might believe only part of it or none of it.
- I have thoughts on how to commit the act of escaping itself. Whether or not to leave a note... telling everyone a farewell message... or make it very stealthy. By the time they find it out, I'd be loooong gone. Should I notify the cops first? I dont want anybody arrested. I just want to leave without getting followed.
- Pray to God to grant me strength. Yeah I've dissed God in these forums... but just last month I started prayin to him to give me HUGE emotional strength. And now I can say I'm at least 5x emotionally stronger than the average person. So I'm sorry for all the shit I said about God... I take back everything I said. PRAISE THE LORD!!!
- This is the last resort for me after all other diplomatic civilized solutions have failed. I also pray it wont come to this. I also wanna keep my family as intact as possible. This is the last fucking resort.
So any more tips on my preparations? Pls help. Thanks.
Mom
- cannot last talking to her for 5 minutes. Very unstable relationship. She is a walking time bomb that might explode anytime. Though we live under the same roof, we barely talk. And that seldom time we do talk, 90% of the time, it ends up in a quarrel. I dont see her as a mom anymore but an "enemy".
Dad
- We can be buddies sometimes. I can actually last for 1 day around him without getting into an argument. We have different principles and views of the world. But we still have respect for one another. Though he can be an annoying asshole.
18 year old brother
- we're "friends". But he seems to be spendin more time with his girlfriend. We barely quarrel.
15 year old brother
- close to mom even if mom verbally abuses him. We barely talk to each other... but we're not "enemies".
10 year old brother
- neutral. since he's much much younger than me, we barely communicate.
Granny
- she knows how to act like a mother. She is "mother" for me. She cries at the thought of me getting the fuck out of the house.
So in other words, situation is complicated. Around mom, I feel an aura of fear and hatred... around everyone else, its fine. I wanna leave the house. I tried running away a few times but dad was always there to stop me from doin it. He always talked me out of it.
But tensions been rising high these past few weeks. Mom is just too much. I cannot stand her anymore. My patience is almost running out. There is a bigger chance of me getting the fuck out of the house and running away for good.
In the event of me running away, I have the following preparations (so far):
- I have about $2000 in savings. I help pay the bills in the house... but I made little sacrifices to make it reach that level in less than 6 months.
- gotten rid of ALOT of stuff I wont be needing. Clothes, documents... I arranged them in such a way so that it will only take me 30 minutes or less to pack up and leave. TWO BAGS. I'd be bringing TWO BAGS.
- Planning to get a laptop to store my important files and some mp3s and videos to keep me busy.
- got the phone numbers and addresses of emergency shelters near my area. I'd probably be staying at the shelter for at least a week (I have a job... so it wont take long before I get back on my feet. This is gonna be a temporary fall) before finding a room for rent or bachelors apartment somewhere I can settle down. I'd be paying around the same amount I'm paying now if ever I get a roomate or a bach apartment... this time no more bad mommy to make me feel bad.
- I also have the phone numbers of the government, the bank, drivers lisence, credit card, and police... so that it will be easier to notify them about a change of address. I plan to change my name to prevent them from tracking me down.
Though I still have second thoughts about the name changing part. Doing that might trigger more hatred in even my 18 year old brother... who I have good relations with. Probably at the time of my departure, mom would be demonizing me to my brothers. The two young ones might believe EVERY WORD she says... but the 18 year old might believe only part of it or none of it.
- I have thoughts on how to commit the act of escaping itself. Whether or not to leave a note... telling everyone a farewell message... or make it very stealthy. By the time they find it out, I'd be loooong gone. Should I notify the cops first? I dont want anybody arrested. I just want to leave without getting followed.
- Pray to God to grant me strength. Yeah I've dissed God in these forums... but just last month I started prayin to him to give me HUGE emotional strength. And now I can say I'm at least 5x emotionally stronger than the average person. So I'm sorry for all the shit I said about God... I take back everything I said. PRAISE THE LORD!!!
- This is the last resort for me after all other diplomatic civilized solutions have failed. I also pray it wont come to this. I also wanna keep my family as intact as possible. This is the last fucking resort.
So any more tips on my preparations? Pls help. Thanks.