anxiousmess
Well-known member
Hi Guys
Really need your support and advice here. So far everything you have suggested has been totally spot on.
Okay so me and my colleague had discussion. I can honestly confirm he has high anxiety. Bascially we really gelled today working together. I offered support. He seemed to ease up. Once he gained confidence, he made reference and agreed that we will go out sometime. At first he suggested to bring along our colleague. When I questioned why. I asked if it could just be us? I pointed out that I want to have a friendship with him outside of work and enjoy his company. He agreed but suggested to go for a coffee to begin with. He requested to give it some time before we go. We shook hands and made a deal that we go for one.
He opened up more about his anxiety especially his quality of life. All his friends have got families and married. So I know he would be grateful for a friendship.
Every once a while, I reached out to hug him as a comfort thing.
Towards the end of the day, he appeared a bit more relaxed.
When we finished our shifts, he began to feel anxious and I could see him trembling with anxiety and he rushed out to leave before me.
Is there any advice you can give on how to work with an anxious guy? Obviously I know to give lots of space and patience is essential. This is a guy who I want to support and be there for especially as a friend.
Really need your support and advice here. So far everything you have suggested has been totally spot on.
Okay so me and my colleague had discussion. I can honestly confirm he has high anxiety. Bascially we really gelled today working together. I offered support. He seemed to ease up. Once he gained confidence, he made reference and agreed that we will go out sometime. At first he suggested to bring along our colleague. When I questioned why. I asked if it could just be us? I pointed out that I want to have a friendship with him outside of work and enjoy his company. He agreed but suggested to go for a coffee to begin with. He requested to give it some time before we go. We shook hands and made a deal that we go for one.
He opened up more about his anxiety especially his quality of life. All his friends have got families and married. So I know he would be grateful for a friendship.
Every once a while, I reached out to hug him as a comfort thing.
Towards the end of the day, he appeared a bit more relaxed.
When we finished our shifts, he began to feel anxious and I could see him trembling with anxiety and he rushed out to leave before me.
Is there any advice you can give on how to work with an anxious guy? Obviously I know to give lots of space and patience is essential. This is a guy who I want to support and be there for especially as a friend.