An incredible book about Listening- for my fellow awkwards

The Zen of Listening- mindful communication in the age of distraction (Shafir)

If you are serious about getting help- and helping yourself then read on:

I am socially awkward-- normal people would probably call me retarded- I get lost in my thoughts and i forget all the things I learn about communicating--

This book is incredible--- it is by far one of the best self-help books I can recommend. Here are a few notes i took from the book:

- Mindful listening is more than just words but the how and why of people’s views

- Perpetuation of self-directed put downs limits the range of opportunities we allow ourselves to achieve

- Getting to know our personal barriers and the energy we waste trying to reinforce them is the next step in becoming a better listener
o When I encounter a barrier I discuss it aloud with myself

It also talks about being in the moment- and the advantages this has for truly experiencing ( AND NOT WORRYING). It also talks about getting into another person's 'movie' in order to listen effectively.

I got it from the library but am ordering my own copy for reference--

If you actually get out there and get it, let me know what you think

I've recently gotten into Eastern thought/medicine meeting Western thought/medicine. So this sounds great! Gonna check it out. Thanks =)

Btw Elusive love your avatar pic you make that yourself? It's so simple but captivated me; saw SAD and so much in those stick dudes =)