One of the problems I have now is, even though I find it possible to talk to women on the phone, get some dates, etc, they always want to know explicit details about my past. I am 33 years old and have not dated alot of people because of my SP. I had not been able to in the past. So, they find it kind of wierd I have never been married, lived with anyone, or been in a serious relationship and automatically wonder "what's wrong with me?". I don't know what to tell them. Maybe lying is the best way (hey, all the super extroverted guys do it and they seem to fall for it). I tried telling the truth a couple of times, that I was really shy in the past and that's why I haven't been in a relationship, but that hasn't gone over too well with anyone I did tell the truth too. One girl told me she thinks I need a "more timid girl" and "she thinks she would push me around" and she "doesn;t know about this".
SP just sucks. You need positive feedback to get better. But you can't get positive feedback when you are thinking negative. So, instead, you get more negative feedback. It's just hard to break the cycle.
So, I don't think dating someone "without SP" is particularly helpful. Mostly they just wonder what the heck is wrong with you, just "snap out of it" and don't understand a bit what is going on with you. Outgoing girls like outgoing guys. They arn't going to push you, they are simply going to give up on you very quickly most of the time. Maybe SP girls are better to date, but I haven't met many (maybe they are all hiding). I did date one girl that seemed to be more like me, and it did work better, but, unfortunately, it fell apart for other reasons not related.
I guess I'm not as bad as some..I can call the pizza place with no problems..lol