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I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!! NEED HELP!!!! 
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Hello friendly people! This is my first thread posting on the site. I've been kinda going through an mental and emotional rollercoaster with my conscience for the past year or so. Before posting, I was looking through some past threads to see if anyone had ever brought up the issue of going to prom, but I found none. (There probably are some on here, but given the nature of so many posts that are created per day, I may have been looking for another day or 2 before coming across 1). So I decided to make one myself. I'm sure I'm not the only one who has gone through this "Prom Issue" (although my situation maybe a bit different from yours due to experience, it all ties down to the same thing). If you have gone through this though or soemthing similar, I would be immensely grateful if you would leave a comment of advice. OK, see if you guys can help me out with this delima.....
Alrighty, my school's Prom is coming up in just 1 week. I already have my ticket, a stunning prom suit, and shoes to match. I wasn't able to get a date, or to be more precise, I was too scared to ask any girl out (thanks to my anxiety, i would actually cringe at the thought of asking a girl out). I asked two of my best friends who are girls, but they both had dates and unfortunately they're attending the prom of another school (>_> traitors.... lol). My best friend said that he wasn't going because him and his girl were going somewhere else in place of Prom.
Anyway, I'm stuck now bcuz I'm too scared of going alone. I fear embarrassment, people talking about how i look, and any stupid thing I may do or say (And i can't dance either...). I never got to know anyone else besides my 3 best friends while in High School. Sad, I know, but Ive tried to overcome my Social Anxiety ever since i noticed it in 7th grade, but i never did. In fact, High School only made it worse, and it was at the start of my senior year about 6 months ago that it peaked. Now, I just become paralized with fear over thoughts of taking to anyone of my classmates or just any social situation in general. So many people have made unpleasant and rather nasty comments (outloud) about me. I'm ugly, I'm quiet, I'm a loser. If i walk in front of group of girls, they get spooked and they say cruel jokes about me the whole night and go around telling people really nasty things about me so that everyone quietly laughs at me make jokes themselves (this happened at Homecoming earlier this school year). I was so embarassed that I just went home after that night only to find out the next day that some people took very embarrasing pictures of me with their mobile phones and posted them on their Facebook pages. Myconfidence as a person when stepping out in the world has plummeted and I kno it's very unbecoming of young man but i can't help it. I experienced one of the most feared situations of a sufferer of SA and i have been scared.
So in short, i really want to go to prom because I've heard of stories about people who don't go and come to regret it for many years to come. I was somewhat confident about going and just leaving shortly after, so that I could at least say I showed up because my friends were going, (until they sprang this news on me at the last second).
Now, I'm seriously thinking about returning my ticket and suit and just 4getting about it. Its been in my mind since the start of this year, and the closer it is to the event, the more anxiety has come along. I haven't been able to think about much else, I can't focus well and i haven't been able to function at 100% while in class because of this and what happened at homecoming, and I have even lost a severe amount of sleep over it (off the top of my head I can count at least 6 nights where i stayed up and never fell asleep). I can't handle a repeat of Homecoming... God, that'll probably kill me......
Sorry for the long story, but I just really need help. Whenever I go to another person about this (a close relative or trusted personal), they just tell me to 4get about it and just go and have fun. Besides, everyone else will be too busy enjoying their magical night to focus on lil old me right? But i also thought the same homecoming night, and I can't help but feel that history will repeat itself becaue this is the 2nd time (I had a very similar experience in 7th grade that started it all). Again, I kinda do wanna go, becase they say that prom is a magical night that you carry with you for the rest of your life. But I'm afraid that I may just skip out and go back to school the following Monday just to hear all the seniors and juniors talk about how awesome it was.
So..... umm, yea what do you guys think? Should i go? Should i not go? What would you do? Any comments, or questions, concerns and advice would be greatly apprieciated. Thank You...
PS: Also, if you have managed to muster enough strength to go to Prom yourself, or if you've gone already then I'd love to hear your stories and opinions.
OK, see if you guys can help me out with this delima.....Alrighty, my school's Prom is coming up in just 1 week. I already have my ticket, a stunning prom suit, and shoes to match. I wasn't able to get a date, or to be more precise, I was too scared to ask any girl out (thanks to my anxiety, i would actually cringe at the thought of asking a girl out). I asked two of my best friends who are girls, but they both had dates and unfortunately they're attending the prom of another school (>_> traitors.... lol). My best friend said that he wasn't going because him and his girl were going somewhere else in place of Prom.
Anyway, I'm stuck now bcuz I'm too scared of going alone. I fear embarrassment, people talking about how i look, and any stupid thing I may do or say (And i can't dance either...). I never got to know anyone else besides my 3 best friends while in High School. Sad, I know, but Ive tried to overcome my Social Anxiety ever since i noticed it in 7th grade, but i never did. In fact, High School only made it worse, and it was at the start of my senior year about 6 months ago that it peaked. Now, I just become paralized with fear over thoughts of taking to anyone of my classmates or just any social situation in general. So many people have made unpleasant and rather nasty comments (outloud) about me. I'm ugly, I'm quiet, I'm a loser. If i walk in front of group of girls, they get spooked and they say cruel jokes about me the whole night and go around telling people really nasty things about me so that everyone quietly laughs at me make jokes themselves (this happened at Homecoming earlier this school year). I was so embarassed that I just went home after that night only to find out the next day that some people took very embarrasing pictures of me with their mobile phones and posted them on their Facebook pages. Myconfidence as a person when stepping out in the world has plummeted and I kno it's very unbecoming of young man but i can't help it. I experienced one of the most feared situations of a sufferer of SA and i have been scared.
So in short, i really want to go to prom because I've heard of stories about people who don't go and come to regret it for many years to come. I was somewhat confident about going and just leaving shortly after, so that I could at least say I showed up because my friends were going, (until they sprang this news on me at the last second).
Now, I'm seriously thinking about returning my ticket and suit and just 4getting about it. Its been in my mind since the start of this year, and the closer it is to the event, the more anxiety has come along. I haven't been able to think about much else, I can't focus well and i haven't been able to function at 100% while in class because of this and what happened at homecoming, and I have even lost a severe amount of sleep over it (off the top of my head I can count at least 6 nights where i stayed up and never fell asleep). I can't handle a repeat of Homecoming... God, that'll probably kill me......
Sorry for the long story, but I just really need help. Whenever I go to another person about this (a close relative or trusted personal), they just tell me to 4get about it and just go and have fun. Besides, everyone else will be too busy enjoying their magical night to focus on lil old me right? But i also thought the same homecoming night, and I can't help but feel that history will repeat itself becaue this is the 2nd time (I had a very similar experience in 7th grade that started it all). Again, I kinda do wanna go, becase they say that prom is a magical night that you carry with you for the rest of your life. But I'm afraid that I may just skip out and go back to school the following Monday just to hear all the seniors and juniors talk about how awesome it was.
So..... umm, yea what do you guys think? Should i go? Should i not go? What would you do? Any comments, or questions, concerns and advice would be greatly apprieciated. Thank You...
PS: Also, if you have managed to muster enough strength to go to Prom yourself, or if you've gone already then I'd love to hear your stories and opinions.
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