Have you noticed that stonger characters seem to be popular with the opposite sex too. They have a presence that people look up to and admire, whereas a shy, quiet person - people look down on.
I do believe that people seem to have a self conscious value on how they are compared to someone else. I know it sounds silly but when you are around a very attractive person or very confident person, etc - you do know your place so to speak and that you do look up to them. I find that confidence is something that is a big factor in this. I mentioned about 2 women at work who are both extremely confident, they are both average looking of average intelligence, but their confidence is so noticable, they believe they are brilliant - and who is to argue with that, there is nothing wrong with them. But I just feel so inferior to them because of this and I think a lot of people put them on a higher pedestal to themselves because of this. I couldn't imagine they would ever even look at me in any way because they think they are great and my attitude is that I am not. Confidence is a wonderful quality/attribute and can make people who may not be desirable otherwise, become desirable and respected. Its something we should aim and aspire to be.
Where I work there is a really popular guy, very confident, bit of a womaniser and he gets women really interested in him and looking up to him and thinking he is so great and I think a huge reason is because of his confidence. You should see women around him - women put him on a pedestal, he is very confident and thinks he is better than everyone and I think that rubs off on people, people do look up to him. And when you look up to people you feel inferior to that person, you feel they are better than you and therefore you would be extremely flattered if they showed interest in you - and usually that can make a very confident person very successful with people of the opposite sex.
The more I think about subjects like this, the more I am absolutely determined I want to be confident. hehe. There is nothing to gain from being shy and reserved, it just makes everything so difficult. I am on a mission to be confident! Come on!